Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! | Live Stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eumlMtryVcI the video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 Here are some strategies that can help your child understand how long a turn will be and learn to wait for his turn Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! 1. Use "Timers" to measure a turn . A sand timer - When all the sand falls to the bottom your child will know it is his turn. . A kitchen timer - When it rings it is time for your child’s turn. . Counting - Count out loud or use your fingers "one, two, three...Fifty!Your turn now!" . Music - Play or sing a short song together. When the song is over, it will be his\her turn These tools can help them to predict when their turn will end or begin 2. Make the turn taking expression familiar at home and incorporate it into your activities . “It's your turn to plug the elevator button” . “It's my turn to choose a tv show” . “It's your turn to pick a book to read” Associate “turn taking” expression to a gentle physical reminder like raising the hand when it's your turn, pointing out or gently touching the shoulder of your kid when is his\her turn. 3. Use the "Talking Stick" A person can only speak while holding the stick. The others must remain silent. The next one that wants to speak will take it. The talking stick is then pass back to the leader for safe keeping. Choose your talking stick or another object that symbolizes the right to speak. The talking stick has been used for centuries by some Native American Indian Tribes to designate who had the right to speak. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 4.Play games that require turn-taking Building blocks, or Lego - start building a block tower by taking turns to add a block to the tower. Use the words "my turn", "your turn" Share a marker or bingo dabber with your child and take turns making dots on a page. Try for instance counting the number of dots each person gets to make during a turn. For a challenge, take turns finding and highlighting a letter in magazine or newspaper articles. For example, “Let’s find all the A’s. First it will be my turn. Then it will be your turn.” 5. Share this thought with your kid and then, repeat it together . Its hard to wait but i can do it . I have 2 choices wait quietly do something else while waiting . I'll Do it! Turn taking is not an innate skill. It needs to be taught in real life situations. With practice and support, your child will be more ready to wait for his turn. Watch my next video, Managing patience with kids | waiting times, here: https://youtu.be/XE9DibTNb_c Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://educatewithartsenses.com/social-skills-waiting-turn-kids-special-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy! Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!!

Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 tips. Easy! | Live Stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 This video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”5 Eye contact tips | how to communicate with your eyes” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! The sound of your voice has a profound influence when you communicate with your kid. Don't believe me? Just check it out next! 1. Excitement and Energy | Use upper sounds of your voice when you want to transmit it (but not too high, ok?...) 2. Pace and Tone | Your tone of voice should match your message Choose your pace and tone based on what you're talking about and the mood that you want to create . It helps your kid to understand you . Add meaning to what you say . Your kids will listen to you 3. Level | keep your voice in the lower to mid level range 4. Speed | Slow down your speech speed when speaking to your kid . Speak slower with lower tones and use pauses. It gives your words power and your kids will pay more attention to you . Sometimes use silence - there s nothing wrong in a bit of silence (it can be very powerful) 5 . Voice Location | Create your voice out of your chest instead of out of your throat . It gives you power and authority . It will help you to breath when you talk 6. Content | When talking to your kid avoid using (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) . sarcasm . gossip . judgement . negativity . complaining . excuses . exaggeration . dogmatism . aggressiveness It will help you find your right tone of voice (notice that each one above has associated to it specific tone of voice you should avoid) 7. Voice Awareness | Realize about the impact of your different tone of voice, make adjustments and perfect it to your style You will be surprised how people respond to your tone and how people respond when you change your tone! 8. Keep Calm and just speak gently And now an example that uses all tips above: Molly is playing with her toys and then once again she is throwing her things away because she felt upset about something. You have already given Molly warnings, you've already explained to Molly that throwing things away may broke them and even hurt someone. Now you are going to say to Molly "Molly I m really sorry you can]t play with these toys right now because I have to keep everybody safe. Let s see what else you can play and tomorrow you can have another chance to play with these toys again" . You were calm but firm . you set limits . No chance for negotiation Very different from: "How many times have I seen you throwing your toys away! I'm tired of telling you about throwing your toys! What is the matter with you? Get out of here right now and you can't come back! I will never buy you toys again! You will get nothing on your birthday!..." Bear in mind that our kids get much information and become very aware of your tone of voice, body language and facial expressions when we communicate with them. Everyday we get the chance to shape our children's lives. The way that we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. Just remember that! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://educatewithartsenses.com/voice-tone-communication-kid-8-tips-easy/ to learn more! Enjoy!

5 eye contact tips | How to communicate with your eyes | Live Stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 the video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Kids body language tips | Change how people see you | 3.2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgPZ9YWUeTo) Tell your kid that making eye contact means looking in the eyes of the person you're having a conversation with. When you make eye contact you look interested, you are listening better and the other person feels better. Follow me please! 1. Try this funny game with your kid: Sticky notes game Write a word about emotions on a sticky note. Hide it from your kid while you write it. Stick it in your kid's forehead. One at a time, everyone around (mum, daddy, brothers, friends) will face your kid in the eyes and express that emotion! Your kid will try to guess. Your kid will focus on each person eyes and face and try to read that emotion. Here are some emotion words: . anger . sadness . surprised . excited . confused Add a few more yourself and have fun! 2. Another eye contact game - Make eye contact with some friendly people that you and your kid will pass by on a walk! Ok, it's a little bit silly but you both will have fun! Show your kid how both of you will make a friendly eye contact with someone that passes you by! The last one to break eye contact wins! Some people will look back and smile at you both looking in your eyes. If so, smile back. Debate the all experience later at dinner time! It's a great kids confidence builder! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. The "Indian Chief Staring Game" It's a great game for kids to break the ice with other. Sit all kids in a circle. Each kid will tell the name and one thing that this kid loves (food, a play...) Then you will pick any two kids The one of them will try to tell right the other kid's name and the thing he loves. Then they swap. The next pair of kids will do the same. This will go around all kids They will make eye contact while they guess and speak. Take the most out of this on birthday parties or when you have lots of kids together. Have fun! 4. The "mirror game" Help your kid to look at the mirror and focus on his own face. Tell him to look at his eyes while he is smiling and while he frowns or grimace. Ask him: "See the difference your eyes make on each frowns or grimace? Will you tell me please?" It only takes some minutes and you may practice before or after the bath. Why not? Encourage your kid to also practice in front of the mirror when he is alone! Or record it on a selfie!!! Won't you? 5. The "eye contact magnet" trick This is for mum,'s and dad's Call your kids name and wait. Only start talking when your kid makes eye contact with you. - Alice dear? - Yes mum! - Alice dear? (you'll keep calling her untill she looks at you in your eyes) When Alice looks in your eyes you'll say- - Ah!!! There you are! Alice will smile at you in the eyes then you start talking! Piscadela de olho... The magnet works!! Practice the previous 5 and enjoy finding a few more that suits you and your kid! Have a great time together looking in each other eyes! Watch next video now: “Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! | 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://educatewithartsenses.com/5-eye-contact-tips-communicate-eyes/ to learn more! Enjoy! Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!!

Managing patience with kids | Waiting times

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XE9DibTNb_c this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Improve communication skills | Short commands to kids | 3.5” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8) Managing patience with kids | waiting times For some children the words "5 minutes" means nothing! They don't know how long that is! How do we teach our kids to be patient? And if you are going to somewhere with your kid where a long wait is possible (Doctor appointment, supermarket, restaurant, traffic) what will you do? Follow me please! 1.The Magic bag : Carry with you age-appropriate toys and things to be used only for waiting times . small toys . crayons and paper . play dough . Travel games . deck of cards . A book Have also some healthy snack for those impatient hungry times... 2. Avoid technology Well, if your kid is constantly entertained by technology he misses out the opportunity to learn how to entertain himself, develop communication skills, build sustained focus and expand his interests. Give your kid the chance to distract himself. Your kid will figure out how to do it - by playing with his fingers, inventing a little song or burping at themselves in the mirror, for instance. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. Make waiting time as a time of learning and fun some examples . Story telling together - the first person starts a story (limit it to one sentence). The next person says a sentence that must follow in order to make a story. Be imaginative and have fun! . Emotion faces game - make different faces to match feelings words. Show each other your best sad, happy, frustrated, surprised, or excited face. . Alphabet hunt - Try to find all of the letters in the alphabet in the room, on a menu, on signs, wherever. Do this together or have a competition. . Build your memory. Start with, "I went to the supermarket and bought…" or, "I went camping and brought…" Then take turns adding items. For example, your child says "They bought apples", then you say "They bought apples and bananas". Then your child says, "they bought apples, bananas, coffee", and so on. .Play Body Count - Ask your child to answer the following questions or complete the tasks that becomes more and more challenging Blink your eyes 3 times Clap your hands 1 time then jump 2 times How many hands are in the room? Turn around 2 times. Stand on one foot for 6 seconds How many knees and feet are in the room? 4.Slow Down Your Response time Make your kid wait a little bit before you run to satisfy your kid demand. Slowly increase the time between the request and the delivery of the desired. Your child is not the center of the universe. Patience is a muscle. The more a child plays on her own, the better she gets at it. 5. Delay Gratification: We live in a world where instant gratification is constant. As parents we should purposefully delay some things for no other reason but to teach patience “you can have one cookie now, or you can have two cookies if you wait until after dinner.” Remember the “marshmallow” test? You are encouraging your child to control his impulse and desire for instant gratification Give your child a piggy bank to help her save money to purchase that special item. You are teaching her patience and also gives her a sense of independence and accomplishment - great for self-esteem Have fun together! Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/managing-patience-kids-waiting-times/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eumlMtryVcI this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 Here are some strategies that can help your child understand how long a turn will be and learn to wait for his turn Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! 1. Use "Timers" to measure a turn . A sand timer - When all the sand falls to the bottom your child will know it is his turn. . A kitchen timer - When it rings it is time for your child’s turn. . Counting - Count out loud or use your fingers "one, two, three...Fifty!Your turn now!" . Music - Play or sing a short song together. When the song is over, it will be his\her turn These tools can help them to predict when their turn will end or begin 2. Make the turn taking expression familiar at home and incorporate it into your activities . “It's your turn to plug the elevator button” . “It's my turn to choose a tv show” . “It's your turn to pick a book to read” Associate “turn taking” expression to a gentle physical reminder like raising the hand when it's your turn, pointing out or gently touching the shoulder of your kid when is his\her turn. 3. Use the "Talking Stick" A person can only speak while holding the stick. The others must remain silent. The next one that wants to speak will take it. The talking stick is then pass back to the leader for safe keeping. Choose your talking stick or another object that symbolizes the right to speak. The talking stick has been used for centuries by some Native American Indian Tribes to designate who had the right to speak. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 4.Play games that require turn-taking Building blocks, or Lego - start building a block tower by taking turns to add a block to the tower. Use the words "my turn", "your turn" Share a marker or bingo dabber with your child and take turns making dots on a page. Try for instance counting the number of dots each person gets to make during a turn. For a challenge, take turns finding and highlighting a letter in magazine or newspaper articles. For example, “Let’s find all the A’s. First it will be my turn. Then it will be your turn.” 5. Share this thought with your kid and then, repeat it together . Its hard to wait but i can do it . I have 2 choices wait quietly do something else while waiting . I'll Do it! Turn taking is not an innate skill. It needs to be taught in real life situations. With practice and support, your child will be more ready to wait for his turn. Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/social-skills-waiting-your-turn/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6

Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more. Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/) Finger up gesture meaning is an old rule in communication and it works flawlessly! The criterion of finger up, is to say "do not interrupt who's talking!". As the old adage says "when a donkey speaks, the others lower their ears"! Here we will introduce a new element - "when a donkey speak, others lower their ears and put their finger up!" It ss applied to one or more children. It is for the adult to decide who will speak first , after the fingers had been raised. That makes it clear that it's not a race and jostling of fingers up in order to speak! The answer to this common question: "Why does my kid talk so loud?" Your kid talk so loud because he thinks he will get your attention based on his tone voice. And if he yell at you, you will give him attention for sure...Your kid will understand if he waits for his turn to talk, he will be compensated with your attention. That's the message! Children should learn to manage the impatience of wanting to be heard immediately. Finger up makes them wait for their turn to speak, and to respect the time of others. The simple fact of being with finger up is also a way the child to give a signal that wants to be heard. Raising children must happen based on a healthy communication. If so, there's no room for temper tantrum, angry kid manifestations, bad behavior modification, yelling each other, whatever. You should all learn how to improve communication skills, use verbal and nonverbal communication inside your family. How does a child's environment affect their behavior? How does a child personality develop? The answer is: by example!By what she sees and experience at home. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If there's one thing to avoid is to allow your child to use physical contact to get heard. Pulling your clothes, grab your arm, scream to your hears, forcing with their little hands your face to look at him, calling constantly for you or even shout!!! Not acceptable! Children have the expectation to win us and get what they want by exaustion. They will insist until we give up. Interestingly, finger up is accompanied by another aspect related to the distance at which child and adult must be. There's no chance for the child to forget the finger up and go grab the adult clothes or adult's arm to have attention. The finger up has a distance! It's called proxemia, which is the definition of the natural distance people should have to be independent of another human being around (critical distances change among people). While in European countries the proxemia is of 1 meter, in Africa for instance is 20 cm, in South America round between 20 cm and the half-meter, in the USA the distance is 1 meter and an half. If we go to Northern countries this distance is between 1,5 distance to two meters. The proxemia is something that varies from culture to culture. With kids proxemia must be equal to their height. Distance between child and the adult should be equal to at least the same height. You understand that this is only for comunication purposes and to avoid physical anoying attitude when it´s very difficult make them stop. When we want something we should use verbal language not physical agressive language. It must be a clear rule at home. That distance control is managed with a simple gesture. Even better if take a glance or staring into our kids eyes is enough. It´s a "stay there!" or "Wait!" message. Another crucial thing. You will never stop a conversation with someone else to satisfy your kid demand. Give him a chance to wait some seconds until you finish what you were talking about.Then you will give him all attention he deserves. After a couple of times they will get it. They will begin to get close to the adult, wait a little and then, be heard! Sometimes if they are very close to the adult they will easily pass from finger up to physical contact to demand attention. Red Card for him/her! Remember the time the child has to wait for her turn or interrupt an adult conversation has to be controlled by the adult. If the impatient child waits too long, she will approach and use physical language. Adult should take that into account and manage this wait time. You are also respecting your kid. ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more! Enjoy!

kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "How to communicate with children - Chapter 3" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0) You need to go out with your kids and you are already stressed out! How will they behave? That's why kids need rules, limits and boundaries definition. You are going for an outdoor activity with them or some friends will come to your home and play in backyard. How will you control them? Fun facts for Kids is that at some point, they feel more secure and confident when they have rules, limits and bounderies. It's also part of their job to contest them! They are growing... Kids need rules, limits and bounderies definition they should follow in any circumstances. It will help you to deal with oppositional defiant disorder, temper tantrum, improve communication skills and behavior modification. It may take a little while for them to accept it. We know those rules should be set from the very beggining. Since they are little. They are aware of what are the rules as growing up. The more older they become the more they will contest and have oppositional attitude. But who is the adult here? Who is in charge? Simple attitudes will help you. Let's deep a little more on rules, limits and bounderies definition. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If we’re going with our children eat some ice cream to a terrace café, we do a quick analysis taking into account these parameters: . We define the rules that have to do with the rules of the place itself The rule is for example, waiting for someone to come to the table for our order. Terms that drive us to the counter to make our request. Whether the expense is with prepayment or not. In turn we sit at the table, we consume, we let ourselves be, in this case eat the ice cream and then we leave. In the background are the rules of use of that space. . We know we have limits We are refering to limits of intensity. Define if we do with strength or softness, if we make strong or weak, sound or whisper … The limits have to do with the definition for any one of these parameters. Where we are going to position them. First of all we have limits on the maximum loudness of our voice and what is the minimum we need to talk above the whisper. To be able to be understood by those around us. We also have limits regarding our movement because we know we’re not running or jumping inside a terrace café, we will not put our feet up on the seats and we will not be naked outdoors... They are just limits to the intensity of our activities. . The location where they will eat the icecream has bounderies Bounderies is where the terrace café is placed. The boundary is the physical space where children know they don’t go beyond this perimeter. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Here you have another example: If you take the kids to play ball and ride a bike, you will need to define borders. You may draw a line on the floor, or put something that can serve as a reference point. We know that from this mark for forward we play ball and from mark back we ride a bike. Another thing is stablishing limits so kids can play freely but they have to limit vocal power to certain level. There are neighbors around. Another limit for example is not to throw the ball hard toward the face of another child. You can stablish bounderies and say that when they bike, each one can take two turns. Then define a point for those who want to be the next to go. They can not pass into space where we are playing ball. They are all are free to swap activities. Either can be cycling or play ball, they just have to get back to the refered line and respect the time of each one. Everyone should agree with the rules, limits and boundaries definition and follow them when you are outdoors, playing with friends or having an activity. Now you have rules, limits and boundaries. There are no misconceptions to anyone! :) Watch next video now: "Body language kids crossed arms 3.2 ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slm1K6dXlMk Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/kids-need-rules-limits-and-boundaries-definition/ to learn more! Enjoy!