Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6

Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more. Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/) Finger up gesture meaning is an old rule in communication and it works flawlessly! The criterion of finger up, is to say "do not interrupt who's talking!". As the old adage says "when a donkey speaks, the others lower their ears"! Here we will introduce a new element - "when a donkey speak, others lower their ears and put their finger up!" It ss applied to one or more children. It is for the adult to decide who will speak first , after the fingers had been raised. That makes it clear that it's not a race and jostling of fingers up in order to speak! The answer to this common question: "Why does my kid talk so loud?" Your kid talk so loud because he thinks he will get your attention based on his tone voice. And if he yell at you, you will give him attention for sure...Your kid will understand if he waits for his turn to talk, he will be compensated with your attention. That's the message! Children should learn to manage the impatience of wanting to be heard immediately. Finger up makes them wait for their turn to speak, and to respect the time of others. The simple fact of being with finger up is also a way the child to give a signal that wants to be heard. Raising children must happen based on a healthy communication. If so, there's no room for temper tantrum, angry kid manifestations, bad behavior modification, yelling each other, whatever. You should all learn how to improve communication skills, use verbal and nonverbal communication inside your family. How does a child's environment affect their behavior? How does a child personality develop? The answer is: by example!By what she sees and experience at home. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If there's one thing to avoid is to allow your child to use physical contact to get heard. Pulling your clothes, grab your arm, scream to your hears, forcing with their little hands your face to look at him, calling constantly for you or even shout!!! Not acceptable! Children have the expectation to win us and get what they want by exaustion. They will insist until we give up. Interestingly, finger up is accompanied by another aspect related to the distance at which child and adult must be. There's no chance for the child to forget the finger up and go grab the adult clothes or adult's arm to have attention. The finger up has a distance! It's called proxemia, which is the definition of the natural distance people should have to be independent of another human being around (critical distances change among people). While in European countries the proxemia is of 1 meter, in Africa for instance is 20 cm, in South America round between 20 cm and the half-meter, in the USA the distance is 1 meter and an half. If we go to Northern countries this distance is between 1,5 distance to two meters. The proxemia is something that varies from culture to culture. With kids proxemia must be equal to their height. Distance between child and the adult should be equal to at least the same height. You understand that this is only for comunication purposes and to avoid physical anoying attitude when it´s very difficult make them stop. When we want something we should use verbal language not physical agressive language. It must be a clear rule at home. That distance control is managed with a simple gesture. Even better if take a glance or staring into our kids eyes is enough. It´s a "stay there!" or "Wait!" message. Another crucial thing. You will never stop a conversation with someone else to satisfy your kid demand. Give him a chance to wait some seconds until you finish what you were talking about.Then you will give him all attention he deserves. After a couple of times they will get it. They will begin to get close to the adult, wait a little and then, be heard! Sometimes if they are very close to the adult they will easily pass from finger up to physical contact to demand attention. Red Card for him/her! Remember the time the child has to wait for her turn or interrupt an adult conversation has to be controlled by the adult. If the impatient child waits too long, she will approach and use physical language. Adult should take that into account and manage this wait time. You are also respecting your kid. ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more! Enjoy!