Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! | Live Stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eumlMtryVcI the video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 Here are some strategies that can help your child understand how long a turn will be and learn to wait for his turn Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! 1. Use "Timers" to measure a turn . A sand timer - When all the sand falls to the bottom your child will know it is his turn. . A kitchen timer - When it rings it is time for your child’s turn. . Counting - Count out loud or use your fingers "one, two, three...Fifty!Your turn now!" . Music - Play or sing a short song together. When the song is over, it will be his\her turn These tools can help them to predict when their turn will end or begin 2. Make the turn taking expression familiar at home and incorporate it into your activities . “It's your turn to plug the elevator button” . “It's my turn to choose a tv show” . “It's your turn to pick a book to read” Associate “turn taking” expression to a gentle physical reminder like raising the hand when it's your turn, pointing out or gently touching the shoulder of your kid when is his\her turn. 3. Use the "Talking Stick" A person can only speak while holding the stick. The others must remain silent. The next one that wants to speak will take it. The talking stick is then pass back to the leader for safe keeping. Choose your talking stick or another object that symbolizes the right to speak. The talking stick has been used for centuries by some Native American Indian Tribes to designate who had the right to speak. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 4.Play games that require turn-taking Building blocks, or Lego - start building a block tower by taking turns to add a block to the tower. Use the words "my turn", "your turn" Share a marker or bingo dabber with your child and take turns making dots on a page. Try for instance counting the number of dots each person gets to make during a turn. For a challenge, take turns finding and highlighting a letter in magazine or newspaper articles. For example, “Let’s find all the A’s. First it will be my turn. Then it will be your turn.” 5. Share this thought with your kid and then, repeat it together . Its hard to wait but i can do it . I have 2 choices wait quietly do something else while waiting . I'll Do it! Turn taking is not an innate skill. It needs to be taught in real life situations. With practice and support, your child will be more ready to wait for his turn. Watch my next video, Managing patience with kids | waiting times, here: https://youtu.be/XE9DibTNb_c Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://educatewithartsenses.com/social-skills-waiting-turn-kids-special-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy! Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!!

Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 tips. Easy! | Live Stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 This video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”5 Eye contact tips | how to communicate with your eyes” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! The sound of your voice has a profound influence when you communicate with your kid. Don't believe me? Just check it out next! 1. Excitement and Energy | Use upper sounds of your voice when you want to transmit it (but not too high, ok?...) 2. Pace and Tone | Your tone of voice should match your message Choose your pace and tone based on what you're talking about and the mood that you want to create . It helps your kid to understand you . Add meaning to what you say . Your kids will listen to you 3. Level | keep your voice in the lower to mid level range 4. Speed | Slow down your speech speed when speaking to your kid . Speak slower with lower tones and use pauses. It gives your words power and your kids will pay more attention to you . Sometimes use silence - there s nothing wrong in a bit of silence (it can be very powerful) 5 . Voice Location | Create your voice out of your chest instead of out of your throat . It gives you power and authority . It will help you to breath when you talk 6. Content | When talking to your kid avoid using (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) . sarcasm . gossip . judgement . negativity . complaining . excuses . exaggeration . dogmatism . aggressiveness It will help you find your right tone of voice (notice that each one above has associated to it specific tone of voice you should avoid) 7. Voice Awareness | Realize about the impact of your different tone of voice, make adjustments and perfect it to your style You will be surprised how people respond to your tone and how people respond when you change your tone! 8. Keep Calm and just speak gently And now an example that uses all tips above: Molly is playing with her toys and then once again she is throwing her things away because she felt upset about something. You have already given Molly warnings, you've already explained to Molly that throwing things away may broke them and even hurt someone. Now you are going to say to Molly "Molly I m really sorry you can]t play with these toys right now because I have to keep everybody safe. Let s see what else you can play and tomorrow you can have another chance to play with these toys again" . You were calm but firm . you set limits . No chance for negotiation Very different from: "How many times have I seen you throwing your toys away! I'm tired of telling you about throwing your toys! What is the matter with you? Get out of here right now and you can't come back! I will never buy you toys again! You will get nothing on your birthday!..." Bear in mind that our kids get much information and become very aware of your tone of voice, body language and facial expressions when we communicate with them. Everyday we get the chance to shape our children's lives. The way that we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. Just remember that! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://educatewithartsenses.com/voice-tone-communication-kid-8-tips-easy/ to learn more! Enjoy!

5 eye contact tips | How to communicate with your eyes | Live Stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 the video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Kids body language tips | Change how people see you | 3.2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgPZ9YWUeTo) Tell your kid that making eye contact means looking in the eyes of the person you're having a conversation with. When you make eye contact you look interested, you are listening better and the other person feels better. Follow me please! 1. Try this funny game with your kid: Sticky notes game Write a word about emotions on a sticky note. Hide it from your kid while you write it. Stick it in your kid's forehead. One at a time, everyone around (mum, daddy, brothers, friends) will face your kid in the eyes and express that emotion! Your kid will try to guess. Your kid will focus on each person eyes and face and try to read that emotion. Here are some emotion words: . anger . sadness . surprised . excited . confused Add a few more yourself and have fun! 2. Another eye contact game - Make eye contact with some friendly people that you and your kid will pass by on a walk! Ok, it's a little bit silly but you both will have fun! Show your kid how both of you will make a friendly eye contact with someone that passes you by! The last one to break eye contact wins! Some people will look back and smile at you both looking in your eyes. If so, smile back. Debate the all experience later at dinner time! It's a great kids confidence builder! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. The "Indian Chief Staring Game" It's a great game for kids to break the ice with other. Sit all kids in a circle. Each kid will tell the name and one thing that this kid loves (food, a play...) Then you will pick any two kids The one of them will try to tell right the other kid's name and the thing he loves. Then they swap. The next pair of kids will do the same. This will go around all kids They will make eye contact while they guess and speak. Take the most out of this on birthday parties or when you have lots of kids together. Have fun! 4. The "mirror game" Help your kid to look at the mirror and focus on his own face. Tell him to look at his eyes while he is smiling and while he frowns or grimace. Ask him: "See the difference your eyes make on each frowns or grimace? Will you tell me please?" It only takes some minutes and you may practice before or after the bath. Why not? Encourage your kid to also practice in front of the mirror when he is alone! Or record it on a selfie!!! Won't you? 5. The "eye contact magnet" trick This is for mum,'s and dad's Call your kids name and wait. Only start talking when your kid makes eye contact with you. - Alice dear? - Yes mum! - Alice dear? (you'll keep calling her untill she looks at you in your eyes) When Alice looks in your eyes you'll say- - Ah!!! There you are! Alice will smile at you in the eyes then you start talking! Piscadela de olho... The magnet works!! Practice the previous 5 and enjoy finding a few more that suits you and your kid! Have a great time together looking in each other eyes! Watch next video now: “Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! | 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://educatewithartsenses.com/5-eye-contact-tips-communicate-eyes/ to learn more! Enjoy! Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!!

Managing patience with kids | Waiting times

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XE9DibTNb_c this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Improve communication skills | Short commands to kids | 3.5” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8) Managing patience with kids | waiting times For some children the words "5 minutes" means nothing! They don't know how long that is! How do we teach our kids to be patient? And if you are going to somewhere with your kid where a long wait is possible (Doctor appointment, supermarket, restaurant, traffic) what will you do? Follow me please! 1.The Magic bag : Carry with you age-appropriate toys and things to be used only for waiting times . small toys . crayons and paper . play dough . Travel games . deck of cards . A book Have also some healthy snack for those impatient hungry times... 2. Avoid technology Well, if your kid is constantly entertained by technology he misses out the opportunity to learn how to entertain himself, develop communication skills, build sustained focus and expand his interests. Give your kid the chance to distract himself. Your kid will figure out how to do it - by playing with his fingers, inventing a little song or burping at themselves in the mirror, for instance. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. Make waiting time as a time of learning and fun some examples . Story telling together - the first person starts a story (limit it to one sentence). The next person says a sentence that must follow in order to make a story. Be imaginative and have fun! . Emotion faces game - make different faces to match feelings words. Show each other your best sad, happy, frustrated, surprised, or excited face. . Alphabet hunt - Try to find all of the letters in the alphabet in the room, on a menu, on signs, wherever. Do this together or have a competition. . Build your memory. Start with, "I went to the supermarket and bought…" or, "I went camping and brought…" Then take turns adding items. For example, your child says "They bought apples", then you say "They bought apples and bananas". Then your child says, "they bought apples, bananas, coffee", and so on. .Play Body Count - Ask your child to answer the following questions or complete the tasks that becomes more and more challenging Blink your eyes 3 times Clap your hands 1 time then jump 2 times How many hands are in the room? Turn around 2 times. Stand on one foot for 6 seconds How many knees and feet are in the room? 4.Slow Down Your Response time Make your kid wait a little bit before you run to satisfy your kid demand. Slowly increase the time between the request and the delivery of the desired. Your child is not the center of the universe. Patience is a muscle. The more a child plays on her own, the better she gets at it. 5. Delay Gratification: We live in a world where instant gratification is constant. As parents we should purposefully delay some things for no other reason but to teach patience “you can have one cookie now, or you can have two cookies if you wait until after dinner.” Remember the “marshmallow” test? You are encouraging your child to control his impulse and desire for instant gratification Give your child a piggy bank to help her save money to purchase that special item. You are teaching her patience and also gives her a sense of independence and accomplishment - great for self-esteem Have fun together! Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/managing-patience-kids-waiting-times/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eumlMtryVcI this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 Here are some strategies that can help your child understand how long a turn will be and learn to wait for his turn Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! 1. Use "Timers" to measure a turn . A sand timer - When all the sand falls to the bottom your child will know it is his turn. . A kitchen timer - When it rings it is time for your child’s turn. . Counting - Count out loud or use your fingers "one, two, three...Fifty!Your turn now!" . Music - Play or sing a short song together. When the song is over, it will be his\her turn These tools can help them to predict when their turn will end or begin 2. Make the turn taking expression familiar at home and incorporate it into your activities . “It's your turn to plug the elevator button” . “It's my turn to choose a tv show” . “It's your turn to pick a book to read” Associate “turn taking” expression to a gentle physical reminder like raising the hand when it's your turn, pointing out or gently touching the shoulder of your kid when is his\her turn. 3. Use the "Talking Stick" A person can only speak while holding the stick. The others must remain silent. The next one that wants to speak will take it. The talking stick is then pass back to the leader for safe keeping. Choose your talking stick or another object that symbolizes the right to speak. The talking stick has been used for centuries by some Native American Indian Tribes to designate who had the right to speak. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 4.Play games that require turn-taking Building blocks, or Lego - start building a block tower by taking turns to add a block to the tower. Use the words "my turn", "your turn" Share a marker or bingo dabber with your child and take turns making dots on a page. Try for instance counting the number of dots each person gets to make during a turn. For a challenge, take turns finding and highlighting a letter in magazine or newspaper articles. For example, “Let’s find all the A’s. First it will be my turn. Then it will be your turn.” 5. Share this thought with your kid and then, repeat it together . Its hard to wait but i can do it . I have 2 choices wait quietly do something else while waiting . I'll Do it! Turn taking is not an innate skill. It needs to be taught in real life situations. With practice and support, your child will be more ready to wait for his turn. Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/social-skills-waiting-your-turn/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6

Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more. Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/) Finger up gesture meaning is an old rule in communication and it works flawlessly! The criterion of finger up, is to say "do not interrupt who's talking!". As the old adage says "when a donkey speaks, the others lower their ears"! Here we will introduce a new element - "when a donkey speak, others lower their ears and put their finger up!" It ss applied to one or more children. It is for the adult to decide who will speak first , after the fingers had been raised. That makes it clear that it's not a race and jostling of fingers up in order to speak! The answer to this common question: "Why does my kid talk so loud?" Your kid talk so loud because he thinks he will get your attention based on his tone voice. And if he yell at you, you will give him attention for sure...Your kid will understand if he waits for his turn to talk, he will be compensated with your attention. That's the message! Children should learn to manage the impatience of wanting to be heard immediately. Finger up makes them wait for their turn to speak, and to respect the time of others. The simple fact of being with finger up is also a way the child to give a signal that wants to be heard. Raising children must happen based on a healthy communication. If so, there's no room for temper tantrum, angry kid manifestations, bad behavior modification, yelling each other, whatever. You should all learn how to improve communication skills, use verbal and nonverbal communication inside your family. How does a child's environment affect their behavior? How does a child personality develop? The answer is: by example!By what she sees and experience at home. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If there's one thing to avoid is to allow your child to use physical contact to get heard. Pulling your clothes, grab your arm, scream to your hears, forcing with their little hands your face to look at him, calling constantly for you or even shout!!! Not acceptable! Children have the expectation to win us and get what they want by exaustion. They will insist until we give up. Interestingly, finger up is accompanied by another aspect related to the distance at which child and adult must be. There's no chance for the child to forget the finger up and go grab the adult clothes or adult's arm to have attention. The finger up has a distance! It's called proxemia, which is the definition of the natural distance people should have to be independent of another human being around (critical distances change among people). While in European countries the proxemia is of 1 meter, in Africa for instance is 20 cm, in South America round between 20 cm and the half-meter, in the USA the distance is 1 meter and an half. If we go to Northern countries this distance is between 1,5 distance to two meters. The proxemia is something that varies from culture to culture. With kids proxemia must be equal to their height. Distance between child and the adult should be equal to at least the same height. You understand that this is only for comunication purposes and to avoid physical anoying attitude when it´s very difficult make them stop. When we want something we should use verbal language not physical agressive language. It must be a clear rule at home. That distance control is managed with a simple gesture. Even better if take a glance or staring into our kids eyes is enough. It´s a "stay there!" or "Wait!" message. Another crucial thing. You will never stop a conversation with someone else to satisfy your kid demand. Give him a chance to wait some seconds until you finish what you were talking about.Then you will give him all attention he deserves. After a couple of times they will get it. They will begin to get close to the adult, wait a little and then, be heard! Sometimes if they are very close to the adult they will easily pass from finger up to physical contact to demand attention. Red Card for him/her! Remember the time the child has to wait for her turn or interrupt an adult conversation has to be controlled by the adult. If the impatient child waits too long, she will approach and use physical language. Adult should take that into account and manage this wait time. You are also respecting your kid. ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more! Enjoy!

kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "How to communicate with children - Chapter 3" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0) You need to go out with your kids and you are already stressed out! How will they behave? That's why kids need rules, limits and boundaries definition. You are going for an outdoor activity with them or some friends will come to your home and play in backyard. How will you control them? Fun facts for Kids is that at some point, they feel more secure and confident when they have rules, limits and bounderies. It's also part of their job to contest them! They are growing... Kids need rules, limits and bounderies definition they should follow in any circumstances. It will help you to deal with oppositional defiant disorder, temper tantrum, improve communication skills and behavior modification. It may take a little while for them to accept it. We know those rules should be set from the very beggining. Since they are little. They are aware of what are the rules as growing up. The more older they become the more they will contest and have oppositional attitude. But who is the adult here? Who is in charge? Simple attitudes will help you. Let's deep a little more on rules, limits and bounderies definition. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If we’re going with our children eat some ice cream to a terrace café, we do a quick analysis taking into account these parameters: . We define the rules that have to do with the rules of the place itself The rule is for example, waiting for someone to come to the table for our order. Terms that drive us to the counter to make our request. Whether the expense is with prepayment or not. In turn we sit at the table, we consume, we let ourselves be, in this case eat the ice cream and then we leave. In the background are the rules of use of that space. . We know we have limits We are refering to limits of intensity. Define if we do with strength or softness, if we make strong or weak, sound or whisper … The limits have to do with the definition for any one of these parameters. Where we are going to position them. First of all we have limits on the maximum loudness of our voice and what is the minimum we need to talk above the whisper. To be able to be understood by those around us. We also have limits regarding our movement because we know we’re not running or jumping inside a terrace café, we will not put our feet up on the seats and we will not be naked outdoors... They are just limits to the intensity of our activities. . The location where they will eat the icecream has bounderies Bounderies is where the terrace café is placed. The boundary is the physical space where children know they don’t go beyond this perimeter. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Here you have another example: If you take the kids to play ball and ride a bike, you will need to define borders. You may draw a line on the floor, or put something that can serve as a reference point. We know that from this mark for forward we play ball and from mark back we ride a bike. Another thing is stablishing limits so kids can play freely but they have to limit vocal power to certain level. There are neighbors around. Another limit for example is not to throw the ball hard toward the face of another child. You can stablish bounderies and say that when they bike, each one can take two turns. Then define a point for those who want to be the next to go. They can not pass into space where we are playing ball. They are all are free to swap activities. Either can be cycling or play ball, they just have to get back to the refered line and respect the time of each one. Everyone should agree with the rules, limits and boundaries definition and follow them when you are outdoors, playing with friends or having an activity. Now you have rules, limits and boundaries. There are no misconceptions to anyone! :) Watch next video now: "Body language kids crossed arms 3.2 ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slm1K6dXlMk Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/kids-need-rules-limits-and-boundaries-definition/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Thoughts about time for kids 2 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-OYNipbwzw this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life Chapter 2 ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMb0a2H6dco) I need to share some thoughts about time for kids. We dedicate all the time for kids. The little time we have. But, we need to take care of ourselves too. Our kids will thank us. Each of us exists as an individual, we are beings who want to feel, enjoy and just be…We have our own life and our own will. We want to have babies because they are an addition in our lives. Because we complement each other and because of them we want to be better people. We want to live with them and not For them! And you know, they thank us for our good mental sanity, they thank us for not being dependent of them, they thank us for we have other interests beyond them. They also thank us for being part of us, they thank us by sharing our lives together, they thank us for having things to tell! They thank us for seeing us happy! There is a time... that is our time!... and they thank us for that! You really need to change your “mindset” to deal with your children and with your own life! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Some typical phrases I have been listening over time: - "I only went on vacation when my youngest was 8 years old..." - "From the moment we have children, our life ends ..." - "We're not going anywhere without taking our children" - "After all I've done for my son, this is how he thanks me" - "Tuesday and Thursday ballet, Monday English lessons, Wednesday piano, Saturday morning swimming lessons, Saturday afternoon church school...and I think I may be forgetting something… " - "They just want to stay with the playstation. What can I do.. " - "I gave her a beautiful cell phone!" (In elementary school) - "If you don't obey me, you will regret it.." - "I´ll take them to play in the Park and it´s done!" - "This is what we get from life ..." ... Children just want attention from their parents. We know how kids are, they want to have their own needs be accomplished and satisfied no matter what. They easily run to dad or mum they know will easily buy that tasty ice cream. Or that arrives with a gift or take them to that place they love to play. Or let them watch TV whenever and as much as they want! They also want us to be a cool mum or dad that always find things to do with kids, fun activities for kids, that think about indoor games for kids when the weather sucks, that find a new online games for kids when they are feeling bored...and I know you do parental control! Everytime it's childtime. Daily reflections and daily readings make me think about my own time! Where is my own time? Where is it? Too much information and communication technology that feed our kids on a daily basis. We all live at the same home but efficient verbal and nonverbal communication doesn't happen! But if you stay alert to signs, you realize that although they are happy, over time, the satisfaction doesn't last long and you better start pulling your imagination. The demands will be growing and increasingly more and more. One day you will see yourself fighting hard to keep your no!. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Oddly enough it's all a matter of managing the time that you have and realize what you really want for your own life and for your children lives. Much better to be an "an hour parent", carrying out an activity with his kid, truly participate in it and solving issues together that being a "3 hour parent" that let his child stay on the computer too much time and then take the kid to play outside a little while he stays at the coffee shop reading the newspaper! No communication! But complain by itself, as you may predict, will not add absolutely nothing nor resolve the situation. Next chapters, I will give you some clues that I consider essential to improve your kids behaviour and tips for out of control issues. Once implemented, the results are immediate, you will see for yourself. But you should be aware that It will also implies small behavior and reactions changes you should take. It will also give you space and time to take a deep breath! A deep breath… Watch next video now: “How to Communicate with Children - Chapter 3” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/spending-time-with-your-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Body language kids crossed arms 3.2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slm1K6dXlMk this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3.1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o) In some child development stages kids use body language to communicate. You see your kids crossed arms, but before you ask - is my kid bad or is my child unhappy - watch your own body language. You shoul uncross your arms! Traditional psychology tells us that crossing arms is a defensive attitude. The concept of defensive attitude is almost automatic in adults as in children. Let´s change that! Children are extremely repetitive of what are the attitudes of adults. We have to bear in mind that a child, who crosses his arms, probably does it because he sees his father or mother to do the same. Adults have the habit of being always with their arms crossed. They adopt this posture in situations either where they want to transmit a strong attitude of authority as in situations of a simple conversation with friends. The first thing that child will do in similar situations, is to cross his arms too. Some body language expressions, including crossing arms are communication barriers. We aren't aware of the negative impact until we stop doing it! We want to know how to foster a kid, how to connect with a kid, how does a child personality develop, how does a child's background affect their development and we tend to forget that they learn by emulate adults behavior. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If your child is always crossing her arms the first thing to do before you tell her to stop, is to look at yourself and try to figure out if you have also the same habit. If so, you should make an effort to correct it. Uncross arms brings the following problem: where to put them! Behind your back? The answer is no! Let them fall, let them visible, and the ideal situation is if you are able to look at the back of your hands, like fallen leaves. It's a seemingly innocuous gesture but fraught with a strong meaning. Adopt a posture of uncrossed arms and fallen hands, means that there is no intention of aggression from that person. If you do not have the courage to leave fallen hands that way, then hang them behind your back but always without crossing them as people usually do. Also do not put them in your pocket! Your hands are to be free! If you already did it, then you have now the condition to change it on your child. You may ask how are we going to uncross our children's arms when they don't want to do it? The answer is, with one finger only! Never grasp your children hand or arm in order to obligate her to uncross her arms! Even with the more carefully you get, is always an aggressive attitude. With your finger, on a vertical position and from up to down, as if you untangled his arms, you can do it! You will feel that they will gradually open slowly their arms, until they are completely stretched. What we are saying to our children is to simply get comfortable, relax and let themselves be. It's a way to make them feel good, dropping their arms as if they were leaves. From the moment they do it, all their posture changes, and changes because they know they are no longer on defense or offense mode! Now, it's time to talk! This talking forks with the following rule, the eyes on the same level. Watch next video now: “Eye contact communication with kids 3.3” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1k9NaBJYnM Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/body-language-kids-crossed-arms/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Kids body language | 10 tips | Change how people see you

https://www.youtube.com/edit?video_id=rgPZ9YWUeTo this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Best rules for kids | examples” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJy5cD3SnCU We all use body language to communicate. Kids do it too! The impact of your body language change how people see you We want our kids to growth confident and respectable It's a work in progress exercise Follow me please! 1. "Let your arms aside. Free arms, like leaves when you do it you will have: . hands away from pocket . arms uncrossed . hand away from holding the other arm . hands far from wheist . hands away from behind your back You look natural and confident with your free arms right? By the way, open palms (of your hands) symbolize openess and honesty.Nice!! 2. Head facing forward You look stronger! . with your head down – you look submissive . with your head up – you look arrogant Facing foward you look stronger! 3. Keep your back straight You look taller! 4.keep your shoulders back you'll breath better! 5.Open your chest! You look bigger! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 6. Keep eye contact when speaking or listening to someone You will look much more confident. Strong people love that! 7. Use your real smile anytime you can. It makes wonders in most situations Not smiling with teeth all the time – plactic smile, seems forced and nervous. Your best smile will naturally come in special moments. Try it, you'll see! 8. Avoid repetitive small gestures with your fingers, with your feet Repetitive gestures make you look nervous. Fast moves like playing hands, scratch your nose, tap fingers, papping the feet, touching your face will not help you a lot. Just breath and relax! 9. Both feet on the floor keep your feet flat on the floor with toes pointing outwards you will realize that it will help you think better 10. Be confortable in your space. In 1 metre around you you're the king or Queen. Remember that! Watch next video now: “5 Eye contact tips | how to communicate with your eyes | 3.3” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/kids-body-language-change-how-people-see-you/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Magic words of good manners with your kid | 3.7

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=470UhLQlpVk this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pV1XTilxNFg) Words like please, thank you, don't you mind, can I..?.? Aren't there by accident and kids get it right away! Parents should understand that these words are expressions of request or recognition, and are the basic principle of effective and healthy communication. This is called “phatic function”. When we dwell on what is the criteria of communication and the way to communicate we have to understand that the first step in communication is the wake-up call, then the wrapping, which refers to the communication itself and finally the end of the communication. Is a constant and permanent sequence process. Like the Gauss Curve, the beginning of it matches the beginning of communication. You reach the top of the curve, which represents the communication itself and then goes to descent phase that represents the end of the communication. Communication is the high point of the relationship between people and to get there you must initiate communication with a “magic word”, to do the hook that involves the receiver. When a child uses magic words, automatically creates a state of willingness from adults in order to pay her attention. In turn when she gets to the end of communication and says "thank you", adult enters into downward phase of the Gauss curve, which leads to the end of the communication. Next time the adult will surely pay great attention to this child. Parents should follow this sequence of communication, starting to do it with their children at home, not only for being polite, but because they realize the impact they have on communication and treatment with others in other situations. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) This is how to improve communication skills that starts at home into family environment. Raising children, no matter child development stages, we should always use the magic words. They growth mindset with basic values since always. This is how to foster a kid, how to grow a kid and how to be more confident on daily relationships. Magic words of good manners with your kid means they will clearly start doing the same with you and with others and receive a positive reaction. It give them great social skills to deal with others and being successful on relationships. On the other hand expressions like: -I want...! -Give me...! -Put this...! - Get out...! - No! ...should not be accepted! Of course this explanation in theory have no impact on the child, we have to move on to practice. I´ll give you a tip: If the child insists on this kind of language, the more likely is mum or dad began to have “hearing problems”... like this: (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) - Kid: I want a glass of water! - Mum: It seems to me that there's something missing ... what will be? - Kid: I want a glass of water, I already told you!!! - Mum: I couldn't hear well ...what did you say? - Kid: I want to... - Mum: What? I still can't hear well ... come on, another attempt! Suddenly we hear... - Kid: Please I want a glass of water... (Time now to transform the "I want..." into "can you give me...") - Mum: Now the whole sentence please ... you are almost there! - Kid: Please, can you give me a glass of water? - Mum: Much better now! Here's your glass of water! Turn the dialogue into a game, giving them several attempts to get there! After 3 times I assure you that your child will remember to use the magic word, otherwise she will not get what she wants! Never forget the correction of the word "I want..." to "can I have?". Bounderies definition should be taken for behavior modification. This is not authoritative parenting. There are several parenting styles and you should adapt this tip to your own reality. For the more stubborn ones that realize the missing “magic word” and yet don't want to say it, there is no problem at all! As the adult did not notice the correct expression, that child will not have what she wants, and the request is not satisfied. Issue solved! ;) Watch next video now: “Bedtime conversation ritual with your kids 3.8” Click here: http://www.mariasereno.org/bedtime-conversation-ritual-with-your-kids/ Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/magic-words-of-good-manners-with-your-kid/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Best rules for kids | Examples | 3.1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJy5cD3SnCU this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”How to communicate with children | 10 Tips” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvmnSRgL90 Best rules for kids examples: Tell your kids as many of these following statements as you can 1. "we Share" We share everything except bad moods 2. "we love kiss and hug" no hitting, pulling, biting, yelling or throwing 3. "Instead of arguing tell us what you think" we want to listen to your ideas 4. "we are gentle" ask nicely, say please and thank you apologize when you hurt someone treat each other with respect have gentle hands and friendly touches use a quietly voice tone when talking to someone 5. Be ready to help and you can ask for help too (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 6. Don't be afraid to tell the truth 7. you look in the eyes to talk with someone and when someone is talking with you 8. clean desk, tidy place after homework, meals and playing 9. turn off lights and appliances when you leave the room 10. Do your personal best all the time "I'll get it there...soon" Watch next video now: “Kids body language tips | Change how people see you” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgPZ9YWUeTo Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/best-rules-for-kids-examples/ to learn more! ;) Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!!

How to communicate with children Chapter 3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Thoughts about time for kids 2.1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-OYNipbwzw) Let's talk about how to communicate with children. But first let's pick up some clues from nature! Animals interact and communicate very well with each other. Despite not having an elaborate language they could use to make their life easier as happens in humans. However the message that "animal parents" want to transmit is immediately understood by their young without need for the assault… If you look at the animal world is curious to understand how things work in nature and in circumstances that involves it. What is essential in the relationship between parents and children in the animal world is transmitted so perfectly, clear and indisputable. All behaviors, reactions or ways to solve situations with children, should be above all, ways of interact with them. Resulting in a immediate understanding by children of what we educators want. At the same time, they must understand that there is a hierarchy between parents and children. That is the result of parents more experience in the real world. Little touches with the muzzle for example leave a clear message! In practice, if they don’t understand the call of attention, most likely they will be prevented from feeding. Next time, the message is certainly seized. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) The young animals have come to understand the reality of the authority. The hierarchy and the reality that everything is allowed as long as they abide by the basic rules. Otherwise they could starve. Pure and harsh reality of nature! So, why do we speak so much?… When it comes to dealing with kids, we realized that observing animal behaviors can give us valuable clues that can be perfectly applied to our children. Believe me! After too much National Geographic, and many observations during years within my nuclear family, with friends and acquaintances I start to get some tricks about communication strategies. Understand communication interaction itself is the starting point. I managed to gather a set of extremely useful clues. It helped me to systematize what can be ways to act in various situations with children. It all boils down to one word. Communication Strategies! We think our orders are very clear. We repeat thousands of times the same thing, so why the information does not pass? Why they don’t seem to understand what we say and doesn´t do what we want them to do? To provoke us? Counteract? To annoy us? After a day of work? Just because? It’s their fault? Is there any one to blame? (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) The information passing or not to our kids, with the results that we want, are related to the way we communicate with them. Sometimes as parents we get too focus on providing the best conditions so that they can be competitive in the real world. True and important but it's not all! We need to know how to improve communication skills, verbal and nonverbal communication and be effective. It's not so that difficult believe me. You just need to find out what works for you and how to be more confident. Thecnology it's our world now. It's completely our kids environment. They dominate technology language and are always serching for free games online to play, playing video games with friends, living inside social media. But technology doesn't end on video games or social media. There's so much great educational projects you can develop with your kids and use it as a strategy for a healthy communication with them. We should start with our own behavior, attitudes, and coherence with the examples we give. We may not be acting in the best way. No problem!..We have a starting point!! Start with the next steps: 1. Stop complaining and whining! 2. Take a break! 3. Take a deep breath! 4. Be openminded 5. Everything that happened from this moment back doesn’t matter anymore! 6. Smile! 7. Get to work! Take a look at my first 8 communication strategies on the next videos and start now right here: "kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3.1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/how-to-communicate-with-children/ to learn more! Enjoy!

How to communicate with your children | 10 Tips

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvmnSRgL90 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Xi1or-Ty-k How to communicate with your children | 10 Tips 1. Connect with your child . Stop your tasks . Kneel to the same height of your kid . Make eye contact . No outside interference 2.Be positive . Explain a bad behaviour in a constructive way . No room for blame, judgement, demands or guilt. Show the right way . No negative words - instead of “don't run!” try “we walk inside, you may run outside!” . Be clear and specific – Instead of saying “good job!” try “good job to put back puzzle pieces in the box” 3. Use active listening . Avoid change your kid's ideas with your own view at any cost . Avoid correcting your child when it's talking . Avoid distractions - cell phones, talk to someone else – when talking to your child 4.Get gently into your child's play . Dive carefully into your kids world and stay there for a while . Describe what your child is doing while it's playing . Sometimes Imitate your child play gestures . Make sure you do the things the way your child does. Avoid doing better and faster than your kid 5.Take the most out of unexpected connection moments . Use dinner time, bath moment, car travel to find a special connection Hey, I saw you build a house with your toys. Very cool stuff! How did you do that! Could you teach me? (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 6. Focus on positive conversations . Talk about something funny or hilarious that happened today . Forbid yourself to embarrass your child in front of all family or others . Talk to each other alone any tough topic and be an active listener to your child . Avoid also over listening (with your big eyes “oh my god what's going on? Tell me” instead try “It sounds it's a little bit difficult for you to...” or “it sound like it's hard for you to talk about it...” 7. Use a different approach to start a conversation . Try this kind of approaches How can I help you? What is the tough subject for you this year? What do you think about the teacher? what do you find tough about it? . Be very specific about what you really want to know! Be honest on your questions, kids are smart they get it right away . For older kids (or teens) take the car moment to talk. They feel more comfortable when you are not looking at them 8. Avoid giving them instructions constantly Give them opportunity and time to make their own decisions, to choose and solve issues Erase from your vocabulary Do this.. do that... Be careful... you will get hurt stop.. wait... No! 9. Keep it short and simple . Use few words - they will stay focus (remember after 3/5sec kids stop listening to you) . Focus on what you really want them to do. Tell it to them in a few words 10. Use your best sense of humour . you laugh your kids laugh . Be fun, relaxed and focused . Kids do things faster in a good mood Watch next video now: “Best rules for kids | examples” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJy5cD3SnCU Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/how-to-communicate-with-children-10-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! | 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 Effective communication tips with your kid| short commands TIP 1 - Speak strait to the point first. Then engage on the conversation Bear in mind that Children’s window attention is too short After 3, 4 seconds they stop listen to you Give short commands and concise explanations! TIP 2 - Use pauses instead of useless chats if you have nothing to say TIP 3 - Use statements instead of questions TIP 4 - Avoid subject changing or counteract TIP 5 - Conversation pipeline - show different ideas on an exciting sequence TIP 6 – Tell things as they are, in a friendly way Be crystal clear about what you really want to say instead of going around. It's a way for deep long lasting relationship with your kid TIP 7 - Speak calm, gently but firm! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Let's practice now! Situation 1: It uses almost all tips (Tips 1,2,4,6 and 7) The “One action Word” approach Your child is with feet on the table. Again... Think on the purpose of the action! Instead of saying “Jump now and put your feet on the floor!!!” Say: "floor!" If your child pretends to not understand by answering “what?”, you say again: "floor!" In extreme cases you will say "floor!" for the third time! She/he realizes at once! Then engage immediately with your kids into a completely different conversation that is really appealing to them. Have a few topics always ready to chat about. Use statements instead of questions. You now used Tip 5 and Tip 3! 90% of children will not need 3 times saying "floor!" to have their feet away from the table and touching the floor as you asked. Usually parents behaviour goes like this: "Get immediately your feet off the table! I already told you a thousand times not to do that! Look what you did to the table! Now it is all dirty! You will clean it all! Jumps on the ground now!!! "...blá, blá, blá....”(Sorry...) (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Comment: Your child is already miles away. Too much information was given. I assure you that not even half of the first sentence was heard by your child! Compare to the “one action word” approach. See the difference? Situation 2 : (It uses almost all tips (Tips 1,2,4,6 and 7) It also uses the “One action Word” approach You're in the car, the window is open, your kids hand is out of the window and other cars are passing: - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hãã..? - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hand??.. Suddenly the kid looks and sees he has his hand out (if he hasn't already known...), and realizes the message immediately! He put his hand inside! Again, you will engage immediately with your kids into a completely different conversation that is really appealing to them use statements instead of questions. You now used Tip 5 and Tip 3! We tend to talk too much! we tend to give tones of explanations! Kids don't need that! Keep it short and simple! Got it? ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/effective-communication-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

5 Eye Contact Tips | How To Communicate With Your Eyes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Kids body language tips | Change how people see you | 3.2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgPZ9YWUeTo) Tell your kid that making eye contact means looking in the eyes of the person you're having a conversation with. When you make eye contact you look interested, you are listening better and the other person feels better. Follow me please! 1. Try this funny game with your kid: Sticky notes game Write a word about emotions on a sticky note. Hide it from your kid while you write it. Stick it in your kid's forehead. One at a time, everyone around (mum, daddy, brothers, friends) will face your kid in the eyes and express that emotion! Your kid will try to guess. Your kid will focus on each person eyes and face and try to read that emotion. Here are some emotion words: . anger . sadness . surprised . excited . confused Add a few more yourself and have fun! 2. Another eye contact game - Make eye contact with some friendly people that you and your kid will pass by on a walk! Ok, it's a little bit silly but you both will have fun! Show your kid how both of you will make a friendly eye contact with someone that passes you by! The last one to break eye contact wins! Some people will look back and smile at you both looking in your eyes. If so, smile back. Debate the all experience later at dinner time! It's a great kids confidence builder! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. The "Indian Chief Staring Game" It's a great game for kids to break the ice with other. Sit all kids in a circle. Each kid will tell the name and one thing that this kid loves (food, a play...) Then you will pick any two kids The one of them will try to tell right the other kid's name and the thing he loves. Then they swap. The next pair of kids will do the same. This will go around all kids They will make eye contact while they guess and speak. Take the most out of this on birthday parties or when you have lots of kids together. Have fun! 4. The "mirror game" Help your kid to look at the mirror and focus on his own face. Tell him to look at his eyes while he is smiling and while he frowns or grimace. Ask him: "See the difference your eyes make on each frowns or grimace? Will you tell me please?" It only takes some minutes and you may practice before or after the bath. Why not? Encourage your kid to also practice in front of the mirror when he is alone! Or record it on a selfie!!! Won't you? 5. The "eye contact magnet" trick This is for mum,'s and dad's Call your kids name and wait. Only start talking when your kid makes eye contact with you. - Alice dear? - Yes mum! - Alice dear? (you'll keep calling her untill she looks at you in your eyes) When Alice looks in your eyes you'll say- - Ah!!! There you are! Alice will smile at you in the eyes then you start talking! Piscadela de olho... The magnet works!! Practice the previous 5 and enjoy finding a few more that suits you and your kid! Have a great time together looking in each other eyes! Watch next video now: “Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! | 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/eye-contact-tips-how-to-communicate-with-your-eyes/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Developing a growth mindset in children | 10 tips | Chapter 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1umCoAcemV4 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Raise Self-Confident Children - 8 Tips | 1.1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYvD2K0ngoQ Share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information as well thanks for watching and remember if you want to change your future take action and take action now!! Here are the 10 tips to develop a growth mindset in children 1. Explain your kids that our brain acts like a muscle, the more you use it the strong and smarter our brain becomes 2. Lead by example - kids get the message 3. Teach them we can do something to change and improve our skills and abilities! It's on our hands! 4. Reinforce positive thinking - when your kids say they can't do something or have a set back you always add "Yet!" 5. Embrace failures and mistakes - It's an opportunity to reflect, learn from it and work better for the next time 6. Praise the process and not the results. Praise the effort instead their intelligence 7. Encourage your kids to be participative, give their opinion and explore their points of view 8. Encourage them to pick up the hardest challenge and take risks - that's how they widen up their comfort zone 9. Stretch your kids capability 10. Teach them to love challenges and be intrigued by mistakes - keep on learning! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Now some practical examples: Fixed mindset vs Growth mindset I'm not good at this... - what am I missing? I'll never be that smart! - I'm going to figure out how he does it! I'm awesome at this - I'm on the right track! I give up! - I'll go another way! This is too hard - this may take a little longer I can't take this any better - I can always improve so I'll keep trying I made a mistake - mistakes help me to learn better It's good enough - it's really my best work? I just can't! - I'll train my brain Developing a growth mindset in children Why is so important developing a growth mindset in children?Fixed mindset vs growth mindset - What is that? Fixed mindset is when people think that our character and intelligence are given to us at birth and so regardless our efforts we can't do much to change it! People with growth mindset think that intelligence and skills can be developed based on our hard work, persistent and lots and lots of practice. Parents have power impact on their kids growth mindset! "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better" Maya Angelow Get every little secret about each of this tips here http://www.mariasereno.org/developing-a-growth-mindset-in-children-10-tips/ Watch next video now: “Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min | 2.1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Xi1or-Ty-k Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/developing-a-growth-mindset-in-children-10-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Why am I so tired | 8 ways to stop it!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncKrAML71OQ this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Why am I so tired | Chapter 1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfzMFY9uFS4) Why am I so tired! - 8 ways to stop it! Hey Guys! I'm not going to waist your time!! Here are the 8 ways to stop being tired 1. Get a good night of sleep : . sleep at least 7h . Keep sleep habit consistent every night for heathy  brain function and physical and emotional well-being . You can't just accumulate sleep deprivation - it doesn't work like that . when you sleep your mind and soul goes into an active period of important reactions and functions that has to be made to keep you healthy. . After those reactions had happened you are ready to give your best on everyday life challenges! . You should sleep. Period! 2. Realistic Exercise & workout . Controls your weight . Combat health conditions and diseases . Reduces stress . Improve your mental health and mood . Boost energy and your self-confidence . Promotes better sleep . Gets pleasant sex life . You eat healthier . It Can be fun and social 3. Eat Healthy . Control your weight . You'll eat less . You'll feel it tastes better . It Improves mood . Combats diseases . Boosts energy, productivity and creativity . It helps you resist eat temptations  . Helps you sleep like a baby . It makes you happier and live longer . You look good! 4. Drink lots of water . You are made of 70% of water so you need it for your fluid balance . Helps combat fatigue and diseases . Helps your kidneys and bowel function . It is muscle fuel . Boost brain productivity . Can help control your calories . helps your skin looks good . really helps you drink more water (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 5. Stay away from the stress . All previous 4 tips will help you stay away from stress . Identify your stressors and write them on a piece of paper . Eliminate most (not all) sources of stress in your life . Eliminate unnecessary commitments . Stop procrastination and avoid multi-tasking - make a plan  . Set your goals . Simplify life and be grateful to what you've got . Slow down and give yourself some time . Take care of yourself!-Go to a SPA at least 1/month 6. Listen to your favourite happy music . It makes you happier . It lowers stress and improves your health . It strength Learning and memory . Reduces pain - if you got some . It Helps you in exercise & workout . It Helps you sleep better . Helps you eat less . Reduces depression . improves your mood 7. Laugh a little . Relax your body . boost immune system . releases endorphins . lowers stress hormones . solves anger and conflicts faster . helps you live longer . improves mood and strength resilience . Strengthens relationships and attract others to you 8. Get sunlight . Try at least 5 to 15 min of sunlight on your arms, hands and face 2 or 3 times a week to get vitamine D benefits . it boosts levels of serotonin - body's happy hormone . it Reduces heart disease . Gives you more energy . Build strong bones . Beats SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) . Helps skin conditions . Boost your immune system . Great for your mental health Now I will wrap it up for you: Why am I so tired - 8 ways to stop it!  Here they are: Number 1. Get a good night of sleep Number 2. Realistic Exercise & workout Number 3. Eat Healthy Number 4. Drink lots of water Number 5. Stay away from the stress Number 6. Listen to your favourite happy music Number 7. Laugh a little Number 8. Get sunlight Watch next video now: “Raise Self-Confident Children - 8 Tips | 1.1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYvD2K0ngoQ Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/why-am-i-so-tired-parenting-education-and-guidance/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min! | 2.1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Xi1or-Ty-k this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Developing a growth mindset in children | 10 tips | Chapter 2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1umCoAcemV4) Share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!! Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min! Great Parents find time for their kids - Quality time vs Quantity time . Make a plan - Schedule at what time with your kids - just like a daily meeting . If you can, outsource for cleaning! Even better! . Dedicate at least 20 min with your kid. No interruptions (tv, phones,tablets,videogames are out!) . Also have 20min or more, all together, as a family! . Limit "screens" access (less than1hour per day) . Decide previously how you'll have fun with your kids! . Tell them to write a list of everything they love to do. Help them with suggestions.When they say "I'm bored!" - "Go check your list!" . Schedule unstructured time for kids to play on their own freely . Spend time outdoors where it's green. Run, "fight", tell jokes with them! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) . When you are with your kids leave for later photos, social media sharing, answering phones, answering text messages, you know what! Enjoy every little moment! . Make exciting invitation to your kids instead of forcing them to leave tablets and game consoles . Eating together please! Sharing a meal with no rush and good fun! . Include your children in the decisions - they will surely cooperate! . Do unexpected things - It doesn't need to be complex or something over the top . If you have more than 1 child save some extra time alone with each one . Make eye contact with them when you are talking Some Great Suggestions: . Sleep outside in the backyard . Play doorway soccer . Plan a prank to someone else. A nice one! . Learn a secret handshake . Make Art crafts with them ñ Choose the simple and funny ones! . Sing with them when no one is watching...or when it is! . Learn a crazy dance together . Kidnap your child from school(with teacher's permission) and go doing something special . Take your kid with you to the grocery store. Make your kid your shopping advisor. Ask for details and suggestions. Kids know more than you know! . Have your kids help you sometimes on cooking, taking care of something, simple tasks you can do together. And make a party out of it. They will beg you for more! . Read 10min with your kids - be imaginative. Make a play! . Spend those 10 min in the car or have 10 min conversation at bedtime with your child - talk about high and lows of the day and tell them you love them! Watch next video now: “How to communicate with children | 10 Tips” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvmnSRgL90 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/spending-time-with-your-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Improve Communication Skills | Short Commands to Kids 3.5

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlF6EbzQ_cs this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y) Improve communication skills short commands to kids - leads to that big question: Why do we talk too much with our kids? Usually the answer is: "Because I need to! I can't stand my kid doing this and that..." The right answer is because we just talk too much! As simple as that! We tend to talk too much and give tones of explanations. Kids don't need that! The message must be simple and clear. Forget too much talk and go strait to the point with short orders and concise explanations. So how to improve communication skills short commands to kids? One of positive quotes about life completely true: "Don't talk too much. Action speak louder than words you say" Let's first understand better why do we talk too much and why it just doesn't work. Once again, nature is the great lesson. Animals use basic communication formats to impose, to get organized, to communicate, with clear and firm touches without hurting. They go straight to the point. No fluff! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) One thing is certain, children’s window attention is too small. After 3, 4 seconds they start immediately to divert attention to another subject. Unless it is something or a subject that falls immediately in their interest and called their attention. We shoul always give short orders, means that it must be really short. We are talking about a Word and not a set of words or a phrase. The order is usually a verb and the verb is imperative. The imperative requires clarity and that means in practice that a short order involves holding the situation concerned and reduce to a verb that resolves the situation. For instance, a child is with her feet on the table. Parents usually reactions are: "Get immediately your feet off the table! I already told you a thousand times not to do that! Look what you did to the table! Now it is all dirty! You will clean it all yourself! Jumps on the ground now!!! "...blá, blá, blá.... (Sorry!) Your child is already miles away, a lot of information was given and I assure you not even half of the first sentence she heard! We need to focus on the verb and the main objective of the information we want to convey: Verb: Jump Action: Floor (objective of the jump) And it's not "jump to the floor!" If you say just "jump", you will get immediately the question "jump to where?". If you only say "floor" the meaning of "jump" is already included! Therefore, parents have to think on the verb, without using it, and then you have to think on the purpose of the action! When your child is with her feet on the table, you only have to say "floor!". She realizes at once! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Other examples: You want your child to open the door: - Dad: Don´t you mind open the door please! - Kid: Hãã?...What? ... " - Dad: Door! - Kid: Hãã?... - Dad: Door! The kid stares at the door... - Dad: Door! (3rd time) Kid goes with his hand straight to the door and opens it! We're in the car, the window is open, your kids hand is out of the window and other cars are passing: - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hãã..? - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hand??.. Suddenly the kid looks and sees he has his hand out (if he hasn't already known...), and realizes the message immediately! He put his hand inside! Don't mix it up with authoritative parenting, you are just going strait to the point. In general you just need one order and two reminders for more challengers kids. From there it's an indiscipline issue. Your kid follow your order now but in some situations you feel it's necessary an explanation. Explanations must always be based on the principle of: "do you understand what happened?" and not "do you understand what you did?". The last option has clearly a tone of accusation, causing the child a natural defense reaction that will contribute in nothing to solve the situation. On the first option, you are asking if the child realized what happened. you're giving latitude so that your child can talk to you with comfortable and confidence environment. This stance clearly decreases conflict and tension on the moment. Here you are contributing for behavior modification and change your mindset to positive opening a communication channel with your kids. We just have to go straight to the point! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life Chapter 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMb0a2H6dco this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first: "Raising Children in Modern Times" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_e0Ajh_2HI Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life. Too much planning to have a child...then we don't have time. Time to change! I realized immediately that the love for my children was unconditional, however it was also clear that I needed to have my time, my time into the time of things. Things that had to be made in daily life...and my kids? How about their life? It was clear to me that I was raising “apartment daughters”... What is it like to be a kid these days? Deciding to have children these days is really an act of courage! What should be a happy decision to have babies or give a brother or sister because you don't want to have only children, turns out to be a painful process, a rational analysis of pros and cons… We program the specific time to have them. We don't want our baby to born in this or that month, . because of the cold . because of holidays . because the time to entry at school . because grandmother is not yet retired . because of college degree . because anything else... (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) and gradually, without realizing it, we're not making the most of what is the simply thing of having a baby! After having them, we don't really enjoy it! The lack of time, the professional goals, the lack of physical, mental and of structure, castrate the enjoyment to see these little children grow, develop, and interact with us! We got them early in a bunch of activities so they can swim without drowning. In order to identify the treble clef. To play that instrument and show to parents friends. To dance ballet. To make the roll over and the wheel with perfect technique. To take the direct hit of karate and speak a second language! We can find reall fun activities for kids and things to do with kids. We have much information and communication technology but we are not really communicating with them. So, how to improve communication skills?I sometimes hear the silent scream in the eyes of many little children. So often annoying us pulling insistently our clothes with a "come and play with me!!... Come see what I did!!!". Exactly at those times when it is a bad time…! What a torment! The truth is that we are almost obliged to choose between our life and our children´s lives. Being impossible to have both, or so, we only have slices of each one...without any of them can be fully! You must be open minded. Accept it as a fact and then you are definitly doing the first step to find solutions to solve it. Urgently growth mindset change! You also need to take care of yourself, change mindset to positive, you need to know how to be more confident. We know we have smart kids. They just want to have fun and feel we are there for them. And we do have to invest in our own life too. The typical phrase “we have to make sacrifices for our children” in my opinion is almost like a punch in the stomach. And by the wrong idea that we must renounce of our life when we gave kids. This punch hurts!... Watch next video now: “Thoughts about time for kids” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-OYNipbwzw Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/developing-a-growth-mindset-in-children-10-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Eye contact communication with kids 3.3" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1k9NaBJYnM) One of the big questions parents make: "why does my child yell at me?" Voice tone communication with kids is essential. I must be honest with you. Children yelling to an adult or anyone else is the worse situation on relationship communication. At this point you make all those questions: - Is my child psychotic? - Is my kid crazy? - Why is my kid possessed? - Is my kid depressed? - Does my child hate me? - Is my kid deaf? Most of the cases the answer is no! On kids mind this is the easiest way to be heard! You should think why. It's not their fault. They have missed some basic rules when they were growing! You should act now! After the bad behavior your child will be naturally in a defensive mode. Waiting for a great sermon from her parents, as always! Your child is already waiting to see her father or mother with a face bright red, very angry, yelling and with those strange eyes... Mommies and daddies! When we lost our patience and we feel very angry anything we could do or make simply doesn´t work. Voice tone communication with kids is a challenge on stress situations. Honestly it has zero impact on your kid change behaviour. The truth is after 5 seconds they simply stop listen to us. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) You lost your turn to solve things in one time! You missed the attention window, which in kids is no longer than 5 seconds. On that moment they only stay concentrated and focused on our strange transfigured face and voice, thinking that maybe we will explode...! On that moment you are unable to have a constructive attitude. The best thing to do is to send your kid to Naughty Place (which I will address later). Go for a walk or go to another room and calm down. It's no use, no matter how much it costs to us, we have to make an effort to maintain our voice tone smooth and firm. The first thing to do is take a deep breath, turn around and take a time out. Then calmly you will think about what to do. Try never react by impulse. It never ends well. Divert your attention to something else and after 10 min you will feel a lot better. Recover and use your natural voice tone and go talk with your kid. When talking with your child in an appropriate tone of voice, the explanation that follows should be a short explanation and focused on the concerned subject. You will explain in a few words that yelling is a wrong behaviour and you know that next time he will give his best to not repeat it. If it happens again unfortunely something he had asked for, or wanted to do will just not happen. Even though you are tense your voice tone is firm but soft. End up with an "I love you". And you are not being ironic! We should never use irony with children. Again, voice tone communication with kids is essential. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Your explanation took no more than 3 minutes, then your off! Of course your child will be yelling again on next opportunity. Now the second part of the act: Come close to your child and in a few word tell him that thing that will not happen...remember? I'll give you an example: Your child has a birthday party on that day. Your child knows, because you told him previousely, if he yell at you again he will not go to the party. Of course he is not expecting that you actually do it! You will come close to him and calmly you will say: Just to tell you that I already call your friend's mum to worn that you will not go to the party Again, your off! If you fail to comply with your word you will japardize the all thing! Do not be emotional. You should remain consistent and calm. We have smart kids. After some time I guarantee your kid will stop yelling at you! Congratulations! You change mindset to positive, you learn how to improve communication skills on this particular situation. You used healthy communication strategies. Most of all you should take care of yourself too and save energy for what is really important - Think about fun activities for kids and enjoy all together. Although voice tone communication with Kids is a challange you should do all effords to use it to engage with your child. Watch next video now: “Improve Communication Skills - Short Commands to Kids 3.5" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlF6EbzQ_cs Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/voice-tone-communication-with-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 tips. Easy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 This video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”5 Eye contact tips | how to communicate with your eyes” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! The sound of your voice has a profound influence when you communicate with your kid. Don't believe me? Just check it out next! 1. Excitement and Energy | Use upper sounds of your voice when you want to transmit it (but not too high, ok?...) 2. Pace and Tone | Your tone of voice should match your message Choose your pace and tone based on what you're talking about and the mood that you want to create . It helps your kid to understand you . Add meaning to what you say . Your kids will listen to you 3. Level | keep your voice in the lower to mid level range 4. Speed | Slow down your speech speed when speaking to your kid . Speak slower with lower tones and use pauses. It gives your words power and your kids will pay more attention to you . Sometimes use silence - there s nothing wrong in a bit of silence (it can be very powerful) 5 . Voice Location | Create your voice out of your chest instead of out of your throat . It gives you power and authority . It will help you to breath when you talk 6. Content | When talking to your kid avoid using (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) . sarcasm . gossip . judgement . negativity . complaining . excuses . exaggeration . dogmatism . aggressiveness It will help you find your right tone of voice (notice that each one above has associated to it specific tone of voice you should avoid) 7. Voice Awareness | Realize about the impact of your different tone of voice, make adjustments and perfect it to your style You will be surprised how people respond to your tone and how people respond when you change your tone! 8. Keep Calm and just speak gently And now an example that uses all tips above: Molly is playing with her toys and then once again she is throwing her things away because she felt upset about something. You have already given Molly warnings, you've already explained to Molly that throwing things away may broke them and even hurt someone. Now you are going to say to Molly "Molly I m really sorry you can]t play with these toys right now because I have to keep everybody safe. Let s see what else you can play and tomorrow you can have another chance to play with these toys again" . You were calm but firm . you set limits . No chance for negotiation Very different from: "How many times have I seen you throwing your toys away! I'm tired of telling you about throwing your toys! What is the matter with you? Get out of here right now and you can't come back! I will never buy you toys again! You will get nothing on your birthday!..." Bear in mind that our kids get much information and become very aware of your tone of voice, body language and facial expressions when we communicate with them. Everyday we get the chance to shape our children's lives. The way that we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. Just remember that! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/voice-tone-in-communication-with-your-kid/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Raising children in modern times 1 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_e0Ajh_2HI this Video Link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first: Why am I so tired | Chapter 1 here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfzMFY9uFS4 Raising children in modern times...What a challenge! We arrive at the end of the day, after a full day of work, and we become in friendly “cabbies” with a rushed smile on the face...then we take our children to the uncountable activities… I need time with my kids! Then I decide that I will make some search about art projects for kids, easy healthy meals to do with them, fun places to go near me,days out with the kids, kids learning activities...I found everything and I'm lost! I loose my patience and think about parenting styles. Am I doing authoritative parenting? How does a child's environment affect their behavior? I have an angry kid looking at me... We return home for dinner, for kids bath, for homework, for small discussions, for the preparation of the next day... How many faces do we have to be? The quality time we should have had with our kids, is wrapped and thrown up into our frustration. The weekend comes, we order some program for the kids which is in general “warm” and does not always imply the effective participation of parents. In fact, parents grab that time to take a deep breath. Challenges increase over time and less and less effective communication and misunderstandings do happen. The way parents deal with their children, has always been an issue that raise my curiosity and even before I have children. My curiosity made me pull this subject in relaxed conversations with other parents and friends. modernOver time, I was gathering information that I consider to be extremely valuable. A genuine source that comes from close friends and others about daily practice and life management with children. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) So contrastant with some books that I have been reading about raising children in modern times and about life in general. Those books very interesting but extremely theoretical and philosophical that in no way help in daily practice with children. What would be the difference in parent’s attitude, to have as a result a child screaming in the middle of the floor, kicking around and embarassing everyone around, from another child that even managed well the frustration and went to play? Is it the parents? Is it the child? Strong personality as some parents justify? Is education? The school? grandparents? Resources?... And then… I had kids myself… Then, it became all too real! Now it was not only just curiosity in other parent´s children, I myself had 2 little beings, forever on my care! I was daily under a complex set of “examinations” by them to test my limits and my sanity! After the kiss goodnight and the "I love you Mommy!!!" I ended my day with a smile from ear to ear. A feeling mixed with a strong question mark on my head and my eyebrow raised. when I analyzed these wonderful creatures that were angelically sleeping right next door I was asking myself: what is the real deep meaning of "raising children in modern times"? I didn't have any prescription or book that would taught me "How to be a mum of two little girls who are exactly my daughters...!!!" Talking about parenting styles. What kind of parent I would be? Authoritive? Permissive? Can I choose? I didn't know me as a mother and now I was a mum! One of my greatest desires and one of my biggest challenges! The daily requests were constants, the sensation of my little kids need more time with me was obvious, the feeling of lack of time and mental availability was real... ...and my own time in time of everyday things…? where it would fit in? After all why do we want to have children? I wanted to have children! Watch next video now: " Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life Chapter 2" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMb0a2H6dco Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/raise-self-confident-children-8-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!