Magic words of good manners with your kid | 3.7

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=470UhLQlpVk this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pV1XTilxNFg) Words like please, thank you, don't you mind, can I..?.? Aren't there by accident and kids get it right away! Parents should understand that these words are expressions of request or recognition, and are the basic principle of effective and healthy communication. This is called “phatic function”. When we dwell on what is the criteria of communication and the way to communicate we have to understand that the first step in communication is the wake-up call, then the wrapping, which refers to the communication itself and finally the end of the communication. Is a constant and permanent sequence process. Like the Gauss Curve, the beginning of it matches the beginning of communication. You reach the top of the curve, which represents the communication itself and then goes to descent phase that represents the end of the communication. Communication is the high point of the relationship between people and to get there you must initiate communication with a “magic word”, to do the hook that involves the receiver. When a child uses magic words, automatically creates a state of willingness from adults in order to pay her attention. In turn when she gets to the end of communication and says "thank you", adult enters into downward phase of the Gauss curve, which leads to the end of the communication. Next time the adult will surely pay great attention to this child. Parents should follow this sequence of communication, starting to do it with their children at home, not only for being polite, but because they realize the impact they have on communication and treatment with others in other situations. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) This is how to improve communication skills that starts at home into family environment. Raising children, no matter child development stages, we should always use the magic words. They growth mindset with basic values since always. This is how to foster a kid, how to grow a kid and how to be more confident on daily relationships. Magic words of good manners with your kid means they will clearly start doing the same with you and with others and receive a positive reaction. It give them great social skills to deal with others and being successful on relationships. On the other hand expressions like: -I want...! -Give me...! -Put this...! - Get out...! - No! ...should not be accepted! Of course this explanation in theory have no impact on the child, we have to move on to practice. I´ll give you a tip: If the child insists on this kind of language, the more likely is mum or dad began to have “hearing problems”... like this: (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) - Kid: I want a glass of water! - Mum: It seems to me that there's something missing ... what will be? - Kid: I want a glass of water, I already told you!!! - Mum: I couldn't hear well ...what did you say? - Kid: I want to... - Mum: What? I still can't hear well ... come on, another attempt! Suddenly we hear... - Kid: Please I want a glass of water... (Time now to transform the "I want..." into "can you give me...") - Mum: Now the whole sentence please ... you are almost there! - Kid: Please, can you give me a glass of water? - Mum: Much better now! Here's your glass of water! Turn the dialogue into a game, giving them several attempts to get there! After 3 times I assure you that your child will remember to use the magic word, otherwise she will not get what she wants! Never forget the correction of the word "I want..." to "can I have?". Bounderies definition should be taken for behavior modification. This is not authoritative parenting. There are several parenting styles and you should adapt this tip to your own reality. For the more stubborn ones that realize the missing “magic word” and yet don't want to say it, there is no problem at all! As the adult did not notice the correct expression, that child will not have what she wants, and the request is not satisfied. Issue solved! ;) Watch next video now: “Bedtime conversation ritual with your kids 3.8” Click here: http://www.mariasereno.org/bedtime-conversation-ritual-with-your-kids/ Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/magic-words-of-good-manners-with-your-kid/ to learn more! Enjoy!