How to communicate with your children | 10 Tips

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvmnSRgL90 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Xi1or-Ty-k How to communicate with your children | 10 Tips 1. Connect with your child . Stop your tasks . Kneel to the same height of your kid . Make eye contact . No outside interference 2.Be positive . Explain a bad behaviour in a constructive way . No room for blame, judgement, demands or guilt. Show the right way . No negative words - instead of “don't run!” try “we walk inside, you may run outside!” . Be clear and specific – Instead of saying “good job!” try “good job to put back puzzle pieces in the box” 3. Use active listening . Avoid change your kid's ideas with your own view at any cost . Avoid correcting your child when it's talking . Avoid distractions - cell phones, talk to someone else – when talking to your child 4.Get gently into your child's play . Dive carefully into your kids world and stay there for a while . Describe what your child is doing while it's playing . Sometimes Imitate your child play gestures . Make sure you do the things the way your child does. Avoid doing better and faster than your kid 5.Take the most out of unexpected connection moments . Use dinner time, bath moment, car travel to find a special connection Hey, I saw you build a house with your toys. Very cool stuff! How did you do that! Could you teach me? (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 6. Focus on positive conversations . Talk about something funny or hilarious that happened today . Forbid yourself to embarrass your child in front of all family or others . Talk to each other alone any tough topic and be an active listener to your child . Avoid also over listening (with your big eyes “oh my god what's going on? Tell me” instead try “It sounds it's a little bit difficult for you to...” or “it sound like it's hard for you to talk about it...” 7. Use a different approach to start a conversation . Try this kind of approaches How can I help you? What is the tough subject for you this year? What do you think about the teacher? what do you find tough about it? . Be very specific about what you really want to know! Be honest on your questions, kids are smart they get it right away . For older kids (or teens) take the car moment to talk. They feel more comfortable when you are not looking at them 8. Avoid giving them instructions constantly Give them opportunity and time to make their own decisions, to choose and solve issues Erase from your vocabulary Do this.. do that... Be careful... you will get hurt stop.. wait... No! 9. Keep it short and simple . Use few words - they will stay focus (remember after 3/5sec kids stop listening to you) . Focus on what you really want them to do. Tell it to them in a few words 10. Use your best sense of humour . you laugh your kids laugh . Be fun, relaxed and focused . Kids do things faster in a good mood Watch next video now: “Best rules for kids | examples” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJy5cD3SnCU Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/how-to-communicate-with-children-10-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! | 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 Effective communication tips with your kid| short commands TIP 1 - Speak strait to the point first. Then engage on the conversation Bear in mind that Children’s window attention is too short After 3, 4 seconds they stop listen to you Give short commands and concise explanations! TIP 2 - Use pauses instead of useless chats if you have nothing to say TIP 3 - Use statements instead of questions TIP 4 - Avoid subject changing or counteract TIP 5 - Conversation pipeline - show different ideas on an exciting sequence TIP 6 – Tell things as they are, in a friendly way Be crystal clear about what you really want to say instead of going around. It's a way for deep long lasting relationship with your kid TIP 7 - Speak calm, gently but firm! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Let's practice now! Situation 1: It uses almost all tips (Tips 1,2,4,6 and 7) The “One action Word” approach Your child is with feet on the table. Again... Think on the purpose of the action! Instead of saying “Jump now and put your feet on the floor!!!” Say: "floor!" If your child pretends to not understand by answering “what?”, you say again: "floor!" In extreme cases you will say "floor!" for the third time! She/he realizes at once! Then engage immediately with your kids into a completely different conversation that is really appealing to them. Have a few topics always ready to chat about. Use statements instead of questions. You now used Tip 5 and Tip 3! 90% of children will not need 3 times saying "floor!" to have their feet away from the table and touching the floor as you asked. Usually parents behaviour goes like this: "Get immediately your feet off the table! I already told you a thousand times not to do that! Look what you did to the table! Now it is all dirty! You will clean it all! Jumps on the ground now!!! "...blá, blá, blá....”(Sorry...) (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Comment: Your child is already miles away. Too much information was given. I assure you that not even half of the first sentence was heard by your child! Compare to the “one action word” approach. See the difference? Situation 2 : (It uses almost all tips (Tips 1,2,4,6 and 7) It also uses the “One action Word” approach You're in the car, the window is open, your kids hand is out of the window and other cars are passing: - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hãã..? - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hand??.. Suddenly the kid looks and sees he has his hand out (if he hasn't already known...), and realizes the message immediately! He put his hand inside! Again, you will engage immediately with your kids into a completely different conversation that is really appealing to them use statements instead of questions. You now used Tip 5 and Tip 3! We tend to talk too much! we tend to give tones of explanations! Kids don't need that! Keep it short and simple! Got it? ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/effective-communication-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

5 Eye Contact Tips | How To Communicate With Your Eyes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Kids body language tips | Change how people see you | 3.2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgPZ9YWUeTo) Tell your kid that making eye contact means looking in the eyes of the person you're having a conversation with. When you make eye contact you look interested, you are listening better and the other person feels better. Follow me please! 1. Try this funny game with your kid: Sticky notes game Write a word about emotions on a sticky note. Hide it from your kid while you write it. Stick it in your kid's forehead. One at a time, everyone around (mum, daddy, brothers, friends) will face your kid in the eyes and express that emotion! Your kid will try to guess. Your kid will focus on each person eyes and face and try to read that emotion. Here are some emotion words: . anger . sadness . surprised . excited . confused Add a few more yourself and have fun! 2. Another eye contact game - Make eye contact with some friendly people that you and your kid will pass by on a walk! Ok, it's a little bit silly but you both will have fun! Show your kid how both of you will make a friendly eye contact with someone that passes you by! The last one to break eye contact wins! Some people will look back and smile at you both looking in your eyes. If so, smile back. Debate the all experience later at dinner time! It's a great kids confidence builder! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. The "Indian Chief Staring Game" It's a great game for kids to break the ice with other. Sit all kids in a circle. Each kid will tell the name and one thing that this kid loves (food, a play...) Then you will pick any two kids The one of them will try to tell right the other kid's name and the thing he loves. Then they swap. The next pair of kids will do the same. This will go around all kids They will make eye contact while they guess and speak. Take the most out of this on birthday parties or when you have lots of kids together. Have fun! 4. The "mirror game" Help your kid to look at the mirror and focus on his own face. Tell him to look at his eyes while he is smiling and while he frowns or grimace. Ask him: "See the difference your eyes make on each frowns or grimace? Will you tell me please?" It only takes some minutes and you may practice before or after the bath. Why not? Encourage your kid to also practice in front of the mirror when he is alone! Or record it on a selfie!!! Won't you? 5. The "eye contact magnet" trick This is for mum,'s and dad's Call your kids name and wait. Only start talking when your kid makes eye contact with you. - Alice dear? - Yes mum! - Alice dear? (you'll keep calling her untill she looks at you in your eyes) When Alice looks in your eyes you'll say- - Ah!!! There you are! Alice will smile at you in the eyes then you start talking! Piscadela de olho... The magnet works!! Practice the previous 5 and enjoy finding a few more that suits you and your kid! Have a great time together looking in each other eyes! Watch next video now: “Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! | 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/eye-contact-tips-how-to-communicate-with-your-eyes/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Developing a growth mindset in children | 10 tips | Chapter 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1umCoAcemV4 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Raise Self-Confident Children - 8 Tips | 1.1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYvD2K0ngoQ Share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information as well thanks for watching and remember if you want to change your future take action and take action now!! Here are the 10 tips to develop a growth mindset in children 1. Explain your kids that our brain acts like a muscle, the more you use it the strong and smarter our brain becomes 2. Lead by example - kids get the message 3. Teach them we can do something to change and improve our skills and abilities! It's on our hands! 4. Reinforce positive thinking - when your kids say they can't do something or have a set back you always add "Yet!" 5. Embrace failures and mistakes - It's an opportunity to reflect, learn from it and work better for the next time 6. Praise the process and not the results. Praise the effort instead their intelligence 7. Encourage your kids to be participative, give their opinion and explore their points of view 8. Encourage them to pick up the hardest challenge and take risks - that's how they widen up their comfort zone 9. Stretch your kids capability 10. Teach them to love challenges and be intrigued by mistakes - keep on learning! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Now some practical examples: Fixed mindset vs Growth mindset I'm not good at this... - what am I missing? I'll never be that smart! - I'm going to figure out how he does it! I'm awesome at this - I'm on the right track! I give up! - I'll go another way! This is too hard - this may take a little longer I can't take this any better - I can always improve so I'll keep trying I made a mistake - mistakes help me to learn better It's good enough - it's really my best work? I just can't! - I'll train my brain Developing a growth mindset in children Why is so important developing a growth mindset in children?Fixed mindset vs growth mindset - What is that? Fixed mindset is when people think that our character and intelligence are given to us at birth and so regardless our efforts we can't do much to change it! People with growth mindset think that intelligence and skills can be developed based on our hard work, persistent and lots and lots of practice. Parents have power impact on their kids growth mindset! "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better" Maya Angelow Get every little secret about each of this tips here http://www.mariasereno.org/developing-a-growth-mindset-in-children-10-tips/ Watch next video now: “Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min | 2.1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Xi1or-Ty-k Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/developing-a-growth-mindset-in-children-10-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Why am I so tired | 8 ways to stop it!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncKrAML71OQ this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Why am I so tired | Chapter 1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfzMFY9uFS4) Why am I so tired! - 8 ways to stop it! Hey Guys! I'm not going to waist your time!! Here are the 8 ways to stop being tired 1. Get a good night of sleep : . sleep at least 7h . Keep sleep habit consistent every night for heathy  brain function and physical and emotional well-being . You can't just accumulate sleep deprivation - it doesn't work like that . when you sleep your mind and soul goes into an active period of important reactions and functions that has to be made to keep you healthy. . After those reactions had happened you are ready to give your best on everyday life challenges! . You should sleep. Period! 2. Realistic Exercise & workout . Controls your weight . Combat health conditions and diseases . Reduces stress . Improve your mental health and mood . Boost energy and your self-confidence . Promotes better sleep . Gets pleasant sex life . You eat healthier . It Can be fun and social 3. Eat Healthy . Control your weight . You'll eat less . You'll feel it tastes better . It Improves mood . Combats diseases . Boosts energy, productivity and creativity . It helps you resist eat temptations  . Helps you sleep like a baby . It makes you happier and live longer . You look good! 4. Drink lots of water . You are made of 70% of water so you need it for your fluid balance . Helps combat fatigue and diseases . Helps your kidneys and bowel function . It is muscle fuel . Boost brain productivity . Can help control your calories . helps your skin looks good . really helps you drink more water (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 5. Stay away from the stress . All previous 4 tips will help you stay away from stress . Identify your stressors and write them on a piece of paper . Eliminate most (not all) sources of stress in your life . Eliminate unnecessary commitments . Stop procrastination and avoid multi-tasking - make a plan  . Set your goals . Simplify life and be grateful to what you've got . Slow down and give yourself some time . Take care of yourself!-Go to a SPA at least 1/month 6. Listen to your favourite happy music . It makes you happier . It lowers stress and improves your health . It strength Learning and memory . Reduces pain - if you got some . It Helps you in exercise & workout . It Helps you sleep better . Helps you eat less . Reduces depression . improves your mood 7. Laugh a little . Relax your body . boost immune system . releases endorphins . lowers stress hormones . solves anger and conflicts faster . helps you live longer . improves mood and strength resilience . Strengthens relationships and attract others to you 8. Get sunlight . Try at least 5 to 15 min of sunlight on your arms, hands and face 2 or 3 times a week to get vitamine D benefits . it boosts levels of serotonin - body's happy hormone . it Reduces heart disease . Gives you more energy . Build strong bones . Beats SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) . Helps skin conditions . Boost your immune system . Great for your mental health Now I will wrap it up for you: Why am I so tired - 8 ways to stop it!  Here they are: Number 1. Get a good night of sleep Number 2. Realistic Exercise & workout Number 3. Eat Healthy Number 4. Drink lots of water Number 5. Stay away from the stress Number 6. Listen to your favourite happy music Number 7. Laugh a little Number 8. Get sunlight Watch next video now: “Raise Self-Confident Children - 8 Tips | 1.1” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYvD2K0ngoQ Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/why-am-i-so-tired-parenting-education-and-guidance/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min! | 2.1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Xi1or-Ty-k this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Developing a growth mindset in children | 10 tips | Chapter 2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1umCoAcemV4) Share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!! Spending time with your kids | All you need to know in 2 min! Great Parents find time for their kids - Quality time vs Quantity time . Make a plan - Schedule at what time with your kids - just like a daily meeting . If you can, outsource for cleaning! Even better! . Dedicate at least 20 min with your kid. No interruptions (tv, phones,tablets,videogames are out!) . Also have 20min or more, all together, as a family! . Limit "screens" access (less than1hour per day) . Decide previously how you'll have fun with your kids! . Tell them to write a list of everything they love to do. Help them with suggestions.When they say "I'm bored!" - "Go check your list!" . Schedule unstructured time for kids to play on their own freely . Spend time outdoors where it's green. Run, "fight", tell jokes with them! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) . When you are with your kids leave for later photos, social media sharing, answering phones, answering text messages, you know what! Enjoy every little moment! . Make exciting invitation to your kids instead of forcing them to leave tablets and game consoles . Eating together please! Sharing a meal with no rush and good fun! . Include your children in the decisions - they will surely cooperate! . Do unexpected things - It doesn't need to be complex or something over the top . If you have more than 1 child save some extra time alone with each one . Make eye contact with them when you are talking Some Great Suggestions: . Sleep outside in the backyard . Play doorway soccer . Plan a prank to someone else. A nice one! . Learn a secret handshake . Make Art crafts with them ñ Choose the simple and funny ones! . Sing with them when no one is watching...or when it is! . Learn a crazy dance together . Kidnap your child from school(with teacher's permission) and go doing something special . Take your kid with you to the grocery store. Make your kid your shopping advisor. Ask for details and suggestions. Kids know more than you know! . Have your kids help you sometimes on cooking, taking care of something, simple tasks you can do together. And make a party out of it. They will beg you for more! . Read 10min with your kids - be imaginative. Make a play! . Spend those 10 min in the car or have 10 min conversation at bedtime with your child - talk about high and lows of the day and tell them you love them! Watch next video now: “How to communicate with children | 10 Tips” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvmnSRgL90 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/spending-time-with-your-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Improve Communication Skills | Short Commands to Kids 3.5

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlF6EbzQ_cs this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y) Improve communication skills short commands to kids - leads to that big question: Why do we talk too much with our kids? Usually the answer is: "Because I need to! I can't stand my kid doing this and that..." The right answer is because we just talk too much! As simple as that! We tend to talk too much and give tones of explanations. Kids don't need that! The message must be simple and clear. Forget too much talk and go strait to the point with short orders and concise explanations. So how to improve communication skills short commands to kids? One of positive quotes about life completely true: "Don't talk too much. Action speak louder than words you say" Let's first understand better why do we talk too much and why it just doesn't work. Once again, nature is the great lesson. Animals use basic communication formats to impose, to get organized, to communicate, with clear and firm touches without hurting. They go straight to the point. No fluff! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) One thing is certain, children’s window attention is too small. After 3, 4 seconds they start immediately to divert attention to another subject. Unless it is something or a subject that falls immediately in their interest and called their attention. We shoul always give short orders, means that it must be really short. We are talking about a Word and not a set of words or a phrase. The order is usually a verb and the verb is imperative. The imperative requires clarity and that means in practice that a short order involves holding the situation concerned and reduce to a verb that resolves the situation. For instance, a child is with her feet on the table. Parents usually reactions are: "Get immediately your feet off the table! I already told you a thousand times not to do that! Look what you did to the table! Now it is all dirty! You will clean it all yourself! Jumps on the ground now!!! "...blá, blá, blá.... (Sorry!) Your child is already miles away, a lot of information was given and I assure you not even half of the first sentence she heard! We need to focus on the verb and the main objective of the information we want to convey: Verb: Jump Action: Floor (objective of the jump) And it's not "jump to the floor!" If you say just "jump", you will get immediately the question "jump to where?". If you only say "floor" the meaning of "jump" is already included! Therefore, parents have to think on the verb, without using it, and then you have to think on the purpose of the action! When your child is with her feet on the table, you only have to say "floor!". She realizes at once! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Other examples: You want your child to open the door: - Dad: Don´t you mind open the door please! - Kid: Hãã?...What? ... " - Dad: Door! - Kid: Hãã?... - Dad: Door! The kid stares at the door... - Dad: Door! (3rd time) Kid goes with his hand straight to the door and opens it! We're in the car, the window is open, your kids hand is out of the window and other cars are passing: - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hãã..? - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hand??.. Suddenly the kid looks and sees he has his hand out (if he hasn't already known...), and realizes the message immediately! He put his hand inside! Don't mix it up with authoritative parenting, you are just going strait to the point. In general you just need one order and two reminders for more challengers kids. From there it's an indiscipline issue. Your kid follow your order now but in some situations you feel it's necessary an explanation. Explanations must always be based on the principle of: "do you understand what happened?" and not "do you understand what you did?". The last option has clearly a tone of accusation, causing the child a natural defense reaction that will contribute in nothing to solve the situation. On the first option, you are asking if the child realized what happened. you're giving latitude so that your child can talk to you with comfortable and confidence environment. This stance clearly decreases conflict and tension on the moment. Here you are contributing for behavior modification and change your mindset to positive opening a communication channel with your kids. We just have to go straight to the point! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life Chapter 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMb0a2H6dco this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first: "Raising Children in Modern Times" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_e0Ajh_2HI Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life. Too much planning to have a child...then we don't have time. Time to change! I realized immediately that the love for my children was unconditional, however it was also clear that I needed to have my time, my time into the time of things. Things that had to be made in daily life...and my kids? How about their life? It was clear to me that I was raising “apartment daughters”... What is it like to be a kid these days? Deciding to have children these days is really an act of courage! What should be a happy decision to have babies or give a brother or sister because you don't want to have only children, turns out to be a painful process, a rational analysis of pros and cons… We program the specific time to have them. We don't want our baby to born in this or that month, . because of the cold . because of holidays . because the time to entry at school . because grandmother is not yet retired . because of college degree . because anything else... (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) and gradually, without realizing it, we're not making the most of what is the simply thing of having a baby! After having them, we don't really enjoy it! The lack of time, the professional goals, the lack of physical, mental and of structure, castrate the enjoyment to see these little children grow, develop, and interact with us! We got them early in a bunch of activities so they can swim without drowning. In order to identify the treble clef. To play that instrument and show to parents friends. To dance ballet. To make the roll over and the wheel with perfect technique. To take the direct hit of karate and speak a second language! We can find reall fun activities for kids and things to do with kids. We have much information and communication technology but we are not really communicating with them. So, how to improve communication skills?I sometimes hear the silent scream in the eyes of many little children. So often annoying us pulling insistently our clothes with a "come and play with me!!... Come see what I did!!!". Exactly at those times when it is a bad time…! What a torment! The truth is that we are almost obliged to choose between our life and our children´s lives. Being impossible to have both, or so, we only have slices of each one...without any of them can be fully! You must be open minded. Accept it as a fact and then you are definitly doing the first step to find solutions to solve it. Urgently growth mindset change! You also need to take care of yourself, change mindset to positive, you need to know how to be more confident. We know we have smart kids. They just want to have fun and feel we are there for them. And we do have to invest in our own life too. The typical phrase “we have to make sacrifices for our children” in my opinion is almost like a punch in the stomach. And by the wrong idea that we must renounce of our life when we gave kids. This punch hurts!... Watch next video now: “Thoughts about time for kids” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-OYNipbwzw Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/developing-a-growth-mindset-in-children-10-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Eye contact communication with kids 3.3" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1k9NaBJYnM) One of the big questions parents make: "why does my child yell at me?" Voice tone communication with kids is essential. I must be honest with you. Children yelling to an adult or anyone else is the worse situation on relationship communication. At this point you make all those questions: - Is my child psychotic? - Is my kid crazy? - Why is my kid possessed? - Is my kid depressed? - Does my child hate me? - Is my kid deaf? Most of the cases the answer is no! On kids mind this is the easiest way to be heard! You should think why. It's not their fault. They have missed some basic rules when they were growing! You should act now! After the bad behavior your child will be naturally in a defensive mode. Waiting for a great sermon from her parents, as always! Your child is already waiting to see her father or mother with a face bright red, very angry, yelling and with those strange eyes... Mommies and daddies! When we lost our patience and we feel very angry anything we could do or make simply doesn´t work. Voice tone communication with kids is a challenge on stress situations. Honestly it has zero impact on your kid change behaviour. The truth is after 5 seconds they simply stop listen to us. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) You lost your turn to solve things in one time! You missed the attention window, which in kids is no longer than 5 seconds. On that moment they only stay concentrated and focused on our strange transfigured face and voice, thinking that maybe we will explode...! On that moment you are unable to have a constructive attitude. The best thing to do is to send your kid to Naughty Place (which I will address later). Go for a walk or go to another room and calm down. It's no use, no matter how much it costs to us, we have to make an effort to maintain our voice tone smooth and firm. The first thing to do is take a deep breath, turn around and take a time out. Then calmly you will think about what to do. Try never react by impulse. It never ends well. Divert your attention to something else and after 10 min you will feel a lot better. Recover and use your natural voice tone and go talk with your kid. When talking with your child in an appropriate tone of voice, the explanation that follows should be a short explanation and focused on the concerned subject. You will explain in a few words that yelling is a wrong behaviour and you know that next time he will give his best to not repeat it. If it happens again unfortunely something he had asked for, or wanted to do will just not happen. Even though you are tense your voice tone is firm but soft. End up with an "I love you". And you are not being ironic! We should never use irony with children. Again, voice tone communication with kids is essential. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Your explanation took no more than 3 minutes, then your off! Of course your child will be yelling again on next opportunity. Now the second part of the act: Come close to your child and in a few word tell him that thing that will not happen...remember? I'll give you an example: Your child has a birthday party on that day. Your child knows, because you told him previousely, if he yell at you again he will not go to the party. Of course he is not expecting that you actually do it! You will come close to him and calmly you will say: Just to tell you that I already call your friend's mum to worn that you will not go to the party Again, your off! If you fail to comply with your word you will japardize the all thing! Do not be emotional. You should remain consistent and calm. We have smart kids. After some time I guarantee your kid will stop yelling at you! Congratulations! You change mindset to positive, you learn how to improve communication skills on this particular situation. You used healthy communication strategies. Most of all you should take care of yourself too and save energy for what is really important - Think about fun activities for kids and enjoy all together. Although voice tone communication with Kids is a challange you should do all effords to use it to engage with your child. Watch next video now: “Improve Communication Skills - Short Commands to Kids 3.5" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlF6EbzQ_cs Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/voice-tone-communication-with-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 tips. Easy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ZuQN4HTt0 This video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”5 Eye contact tips | how to communicate with your eyes” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 Voice tone in communication with your kid | 8 Tips. Easy! The sound of your voice has a profound influence when you communicate with your kid. Don't believe me? Just check it out next! 1. Excitement and Energy | Use upper sounds of your voice when you want to transmit it (but not too high, ok?...) 2. Pace and Tone | Your tone of voice should match your message Choose your pace and tone based on what you're talking about and the mood that you want to create . It helps your kid to understand you . Add meaning to what you say . Your kids will listen to you 3. Level | keep your voice in the lower to mid level range 4. Speed | Slow down your speech speed when speaking to your kid . Speak slower with lower tones and use pauses. It gives your words power and your kids will pay more attention to you . Sometimes use silence - there s nothing wrong in a bit of silence (it can be very powerful) 5 . Voice Location | Create your voice out of your chest instead of out of your throat . It gives you power and authority . It will help you to breath when you talk 6. Content | When talking to your kid avoid using (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) . sarcasm . gossip . judgement . negativity . complaining . excuses . exaggeration . dogmatism . aggressiveness It will help you find your right tone of voice (notice that each one above has associated to it specific tone of voice you should avoid) 7. Voice Awareness | Realize about the impact of your different tone of voice, make adjustments and perfect it to your style You will be surprised how people respond to your tone and how people respond when you change your tone! 8. Keep Calm and just speak gently And now an example that uses all tips above: Molly is playing with her toys and then once again she is throwing her things away because she felt upset about something. You have already given Molly warnings, you've already explained to Molly that throwing things away may broke them and even hurt someone. Now you are going to say to Molly "Molly I m really sorry you can]t play with these toys right now because I have to keep everybody safe. Let s see what else you can play and tomorrow you can have another chance to play with these toys again" . You were calm but firm . you set limits . No chance for negotiation Very different from: "How many times have I seen you throwing your toys away! I'm tired of telling you about throwing your toys! What is the matter with you? Get out of here right now and you can't come back! I will never buy you toys again! You will get nothing on your birthday!..." Bear in mind that our kids get much information and become very aware of your tone of voice, body language and facial expressions when we communicate with them. Everyday we get the chance to shape our children's lives. The way that we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. Just remember that! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/voice-tone-in-communication-with-your-kid/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Raising children in modern times 1 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_e0Ajh_2HI this Video Link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first: Why am I so tired | Chapter 1 here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfzMFY9uFS4 Raising children in modern times...What a challenge! We arrive at the end of the day, after a full day of work, and we become in friendly “cabbies” with a rushed smile on the face...then we take our children to the uncountable activities… I need time with my kids! Then I decide that I will make some search about art projects for kids, easy healthy meals to do with them, fun places to go near me,days out with the kids, kids learning activities...I found everything and I'm lost! I loose my patience and think about parenting styles. Am I doing authoritative parenting? How does a child's environment affect their behavior? I have an angry kid looking at me... We return home for dinner, for kids bath, for homework, for small discussions, for the preparation of the next day... How many faces do we have to be? The quality time we should have had with our kids, is wrapped and thrown up into our frustration. The weekend comes, we order some program for the kids which is in general “warm” and does not always imply the effective participation of parents. In fact, parents grab that time to take a deep breath. Challenges increase over time and less and less effective communication and misunderstandings do happen. The way parents deal with their children, has always been an issue that raise my curiosity and even before I have children. My curiosity made me pull this subject in relaxed conversations with other parents and friends. modernOver time, I was gathering information that I consider to be extremely valuable. A genuine source that comes from close friends and others about daily practice and life management with children. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) So contrastant with some books that I have been reading about raising children in modern times and about life in general. Those books very interesting but extremely theoretical and philosophical that in no way help in daily practice with children. What would be the difference in parent’s attitude, to have as a result a child screaming in the middle of the floor, kicking around and embarassing everyone around, from another child that even managed well the frustration and went to play? Is it the parents? Is it the child? Strong personality as some parents justify? Is education? The school? grandparents? Resources?... And then… I had kids myself… Then, it became all too real! Now it was not only just curiosity in other parent´s children, I myself had 2 little beings, forever on my care! I was daily under a complex set of “examinations” by them to test my limits and my sanity! After the kiss goodnight and the "I love you Mommy!!!" I ended my day with a smile from ear to ear. A feeling mixed with a strong question mark on my head and my eyebrow raised. when I analyzed these wonderful creatures that were angelically sleeping right next door I was asking myself: what is the real deep meaning of "raising children in modern times"? I didn't have any prescription or book that would taught me "How to be a mum of two little girls who are exactly my daughters...!!!" Talking about parenting styles. What kind of parent I would be? Authoritive? Permissive? Can I choose? I didn't know me as a mother and now I was a mum! One of my greatest desires and one of my biggest challenges! The daily requests were constants, the sensation of my little kids need more time with me was obvious, the feeling of lack of time and mental availability was real... ...and my own time in time of everyday things…? where it would fit in? After all why do we want to have children? I wanted to have children! Watch next video now: " Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life Chapter 2" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMb0a2H6dco Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/raise-self-confident-children-8-tips/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Raise Self Confident Children - 8 Tips

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYvD2K0ngoQ this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Why am I so tired? | 8 Ways to stop it! | For our kids sake | Chapter 1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncKrAML71OQ) 8 tips to raise self confident children that works. Raising happy, healthy, and self-confident children is a much more difficult job than it seems. Our role as parents it´s not necessarily tell our kids how to handle situations and solve things, but give them the necessary tools based on strong values which will help them to solve things by themselves! Lead by example so they see you doing things in an appropriate manner and they learn how to do it too. Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who might benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to change your future and your kids future take action and take action now!!! 8 Tips to Raise Self Confident Children: 1 . Have Rules, Limits and bounderies Rules-How to Limits-how much bouderies-How far for everything! 2 . Provide time for free play . Avoid overschedule your children to the point they dont take risks, dont have experience, let them take small risks 3. Avoid doing everything instead of your kids The feeling "I thought I coudn't but actually I did it"its a huge positive experience - don't take this feeling from them. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 4. Encourage positive attitudes - Optimism - face the day with adventurous mood - embrace faliure,it's a learning opportunity - It's ok to laugh at ourselves, not making a big deal about something sometimes (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 5 . make them decide for themselves Decision-making and problem-solving will lead them to be responsible for their actions 6. talk to them this way, it works . Talk to them gently and firmly . keep feed them with positive reinforcement . Speak less. Sometimes silence . Only criticise and correct your kids far from other people . Say sorry and apologize to your kids 7. Say NO when you need Avoid lectures and repeated warnings without a consequence. After 3-5 seconds they stop listen to you and it only show that you will not going to follow through on that warning. Focus on the positive ones. Don't give long explanations to justify your NO. Sometimes don't give any explanation at all! 8. Improve your kids self-esteem All previous tips will help you to improve your kids self-esteem. Your kids will start to try things on their own, feel excited with new challenges, be responsible for their actions,accept who they are, handle pressure and manage well frustration and conflicts.They will express and manage their emotions appropriately Watch next video now: “Developing a growth mindset in children | 10 tips | Chapter 2” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1umCoAcemV4 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/raise-self-confident-children-8-tips/to learn more! Enjoy!

Eye contact communication with kids 3.3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1k9NaBJYnM this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Body language kids crossed arms 3.2" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slm1K6dXlMk) We use our eyes to communicate with others but in general we avoid to look directly to another person and also we avoid a direct look from a person. We simply don´t use eye contact communication with kids! Our eyes reveal too much about us. We should learn how to use our eyes on communication. It can be abusive, it can be intimidating, it can be tricky, whatever you want from both parts. We all know this old saying "eyes are a reflection of your inner self" Using eye contact communication with kids it's a precious thing you should take care of. Enforces your relationship and confident. Sometimes you will not need to say a word! On the other side people that never stablish eye contact in a close relationship it's one of communication barriers. It will be too hard to find communication strategies to get around the problem. Don't let it happen within your family! How does a child's environment affect their behavior? Everything! Having a healthy environment at home is based upon healthy communication. your kids will grow and develop their personality based on it. It's very important to have daily reflections about how to communicate with your kids. If you want to talk with your child you should always take into account the difference in heights that exists between you both. Adults are usually taller than children, and this advantage height difference is tendly used as a position of authority. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) When you need to solve any issue with your kid it's time for you to put on the same level as your child in terms of hight. Then you should make eye contact. Support yourself somehow, put a knee down and the other one up, without needing to be squatting. If appropriate put the forearm over the knee that is raised, find your best way and do as you like.bWhile doing it you are conveying a relaxed position that makes your kid feel confidence and willing to talk with you. Give some time, in silent, to stablish eye contact. After a while your kid will calm dowm. Then you start your conversation. You may feeling tired all the time and your kid know perfectly how to be a naughty kid but you will find very fast how effective is to make a pause,wait a moment, take a deep breath, make eye contact until your kid be in sintony with you. You are using verbal and nonverbal communication. Nonverbal communication as eye contact will save you time and energy you probably you would need to use on verbal communication only. You are respecting your child and also giving space to dissipate the tension moment even before you say a word. Also your child will not have to be stand on her toes to be heard. So, probably your kid will not need to scream either!... Remember, these attitudes must be taken before you even begin the conversation with your kid. Now you use eye contact communication with kids! Congratulations! The following tip is the voice tone you should use to reinforce your communication! Watch next video now: “Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/eye-contact-communication-with-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Why am I so tired | Chapter 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfzMFY9uFS4 this video link. Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! Why am i so tired all the time? Positive quotes about life doesn't seems to help... I'm always searching for educational games for my kids, cool and fun activities for kids, original craft ideas, things to do with them, challenges to do with friends... So much efford and such little time! How to improve communication skills? Develop verbal and nonverbal communication with our children? Be more confident and take care of myself? That's why I am feeling so tired! You should take care of yourself! I looked around me, it bothers me the perception that I was having… it bothers me how I felt about it. How are we living our lives? In what way our children are living?... In everyday life, it happened a lot of times, watching people and situations around me. Curious and intrigued at the same time to realize the complex human being that each of us is! My eyes saw what catch my attention, and all of a sudden, as magic, whatever I was watching at the time was, in my mind transported to a screen. A big screen! That screen becoming a film happening right in front of me, and I, myself, stayed in my discreet shell and watched...My eyes are focus on gestures, on expressions, on the tone of voice, in breath, in attitudes, in the face of each character in the movie, in each interaction with the outside world of themselves. All the information that my conscious think relevant and curious, is collected and carefully stowed in specific boxes that exist somewhere in my mind. . Stress and impatience in relationships and everyday life issues was common. . I saw pause moments to be made in hurry and moments of quiet to be passed in tension. . Slouching shoulders and accommodated smiles. . Indifference and at the same time concern. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Details of these films have been recorded in my head for years. Unable to remain indifferent to so much information that I was getting passively. The issue becomes much more delicate and specially sensitive for me when characters who come into play, are kids…These lovely little human beings, proud of any parent, a genetic result of ourselves, or not. At the moment they are born, also blossom in us something as big as the whole world that fits inside us called unconditional love. These little beings are the ones that change our lives that make us feel good and often make us blind in the decisions and choices we have to take! These wonderful beings can also become the most terrifying creatures. I know why am I always tired. Kids try to manipulate and blackmail us, perfectly aware of our weaknesses! They are intelligent and skill enough to use it with greatest refinements! They can transform our lives into a real nightmare! To the point where we feel completely unable to deal with daily issues. They win us by fatigue and can make us feel like we're the worst parents in the world! In my life as a mom of 2 wonderful little kids of 5 and 8 years old, I found myself thinking about the ability these two creatures have to turn things around. Sometimes with such refinement and subtlety, that I start question myself if I am judging them unfairly. Specially when my kids look at me with those sad and sorry eyes of Puss in boots, so well played! Some real Hollywood stars! I felt outraged! ;) (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) However, we must make it very clear that kids are not bad creatures nor have any machiavellian plan to destroy our lives. They only need rules in order to deal with too much imputs, requests, demands and challenges of everyday life. Gives me creeps to think that actualy our children spend more time in school than with us. Where the power of the group reigns, coming along with attitudes and expressions we often do not recognize in our own kids. Becoming little demanding children that want to see their needs quickly met. When at home they only want to stay on cell phone playing or in their favourite social media communicating and sharing their lives. Although kids have real benefit using technology and social media there can be serious downsides to all this online sharing world. As parents we shoud become aware and prepare our kids for this online world. And then, I saw myself…. How many faces do we have to be?... Watch next video now: "Raising Children in Modern Times" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_e0Ajh_2HI Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/why-am-i-so-tired-parenting-education-and-guidance/ to learn more! Enjoy!