Managing patience with kids | Waiting times

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XE9DibTNb_c this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Improve communication skills | Short commands to kids | 3.5” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8) Managing patience with kids | waiting times For some children the words "5 minutes" means nothing! They don't know how long that is! How do we teach our kids to be patient? And if you are going to somewhere with your kid where a long wait is possible (Doctor appointment, supermarket, restaurant, traffic) what will you do? Follow me please! 1.The Magic bag : Carry with you age-appropriate toys and things to be used only for waiting times . small toys . crayons and paper . play dough . Travel games . deck of cards . A book Have also some healthy snack for those impatient hungry times... 2. Avoid technology Well, if your kid is constantly entertained by technology he misses out the opportunity to learn how to entertain himself, develop communication skills, build sustained focus and expand his interests. Give your kid the chance to distract himself. Your kid will figure out how to do it - by playing with his fingers, inventing a little song or burping at themselves in the mirror, for instance. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 3. Make waiting time as a time of learning and fun some examples . Story telling together - the first person starts a story (limit it to one sentence). The next person says a sentence that must follow in order to make a story. Be imaginative and have fun! . Emotion faces game - make different faces to match feelings words. Show each other your best sad, happy, frustrated, surprised, or excited face. . Alphabet hunt - Try to find all of the letters in the alphabet in the room, on a menu, on signs, wherever. Do this together or have a competition. . Build your memory. Start with, "I went to the supermarket and bought…" or, "I went camping and brought…" Then take turns adding items. For example, your child says "They bought apples", then you say "They bought apples and bananas". Then your child says, "they bought apples, bananas, coffee", and so on. .Play Body Count - Ask your child to answer the following questions or complete the tasks that becomes more and more challenging Blink your eyes 3 times Clap your hands 1 time then jump 2 times How many hands are in the room? Turn around 2 times. Stand on one foot for 6 seconds How many knees and feet are in the room? 4.Slow Down Your Response time Make your kid wait a little bit before you run to satisfy your kid demand. Slowly increase the time between the request and the delivery of the desired. Your child is not the center of the universe. Patience is a muscle. The more a child plays on her own, the better she gets at it. 5. Delay Gratification: We live in a world where instant gratification is constant. As parents we should purposefully delay some things for no other reason but to teach patience “you can have one cookie now, or you can have two cookies if you wait until after dinner.” Remember the “marshmallow” test? You are encouraging your child to control his impulse and desire for instant gratification Give your child a piggy bank to help her save money to purchase that special item. You are teaching her patience and also gives her a sense of independence and accomplishment - great for self-esteem Have fun together! Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/managing-patience-kids-waiting-times/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eumlMtryVcI this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Effective communication tips with your kid | Short Commands ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcmCH_7JfT8 Here are some strategies that can help your child understand how long a turn will be and learn to wait for his turn Social skills waiting your turn | kids special tips! 1. Use "Timers" to measure a turn . A sand timer - When all the sand falls to the bottom your child will know it is his turn. . A kitchen timer - When it rings it is time for your child’s turn. . Counting - Count out loud or use your fingers "one, two, three...Fifty!Your turn now!" . Music - Play or sing a short song together. When the song is over, it will be his\her turn These tools can help them to predict when their turn will end or begin 2. Make the turn taking expression familiar at home and incorporate it into your activities . “It's your turn to plug the elevator button” . “It's my turn to choose a tv show” . “It's your turn to pick a book to read” Associate “turn taking” expression to a gentle physical reminder like raising the hand when it's your turn, pointing out or gently touching the shoulder of your kid when is his\her turn. 3. Use the "Talking Stick" A person can only speak while holding the stick. The others must remain silent. The next one that wants to speak will take it. The talking stick is then pass back to the leader for safe keeping. Choose your talking stick or another object that symbolizes the right to speak. The talking stick has been used for centuries by some Native American Indian Tribes to designate who had the right to speak. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 4.Play games that require turn-taking Building blocks, or Lego - start building a block tower by taking turns to add a block to the tower. Use the words "my turn", "your turn" Share a marker or bingo dabber with your child and take turns making dots on a page. Try for instance counting the number of dots each person gets to make during a turn. For a challenge, take turns finding and highlighting a letter in magazine or newspaper articles. For example, “Let’s find all the A’s. First it will be my turn. Then it will be your turn.” 5. Share this thought with your kid and then, repeat it together . Its hard to wait but i can do it . I have 2 choices wait quietly do something else while waiting . I'll Do it! Turn taking is not an innate skill. It needs to be taught in real life situations. With practice and support, your child will be more ready to wait for his turn. Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/social-skills-waiting-your-turn/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6

Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more. Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/) Finger up gesture meaning is an old rule in communication and it works flawlessly! The criterion of finger up, is to say "do not interrupt who's talking!". As the old adage says "when a donkey speaks, the others lower their ears"! Here we will introduce a new element - "when a donkey speak, others lower their ears and put their finger up!" It ss applied to one or more children. It is for the adult to decide who will speak first , after the fingers had been raised. That makes it clear that it's not a race and jostling of fingers up in order to speak! The answer to this common question: "Why does my kid talk so loud?" Your kid talk so loud because he thinks he will get your attention based on his tone voice. And if he yell at you, you will give him attention for sure...Your kid will understand if he waits for his turn to talk, he will be compensated with your attention. That's the message! Children should learn to manage the impatience of wanting to be heard immediately. Finger up makes them wait for their turn to speak, and to respect the time of others. The simple fact of being with finger up is also a way the child to give a signal that wants to be heard. Raising children must happen based on a healthy communication. If so, there's no room for temper tantrum, angry kid manifestations, bad behavior modification, yelling each other, whatever. You should all learn how to improve communication skills, use verbal and nonverbal communication inside your family. How does a child's environment affect their behavior? How does a child personality develop? The answer is: by example!By what she sees and experience at home. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If there's one thing to avoid is to allow your child to use physical contact to get heard. Pulling your clothes, grab your arm, scream to your hears, forcing with their little hands your face to look at him, calling constantly for you or even shout!!! Not acceptable! Children have the expectation to win us and get what they want by exaustion. They will insist until we give up. Interestingly, finger up is accompanied by another aspect related to the distance at which child and adult must be. There's no chance for the child to forget the finger up and go grab the adult clothes or adult's arm to have attention. The finger up has a distance! It's called proxemia, which is the definition of the natural distance people should have to be independent of another human being around (critical distances change among people). While in European countries the proxemia is of 1 meter, in Africa for instance is 20 cm, in South America round between 20 cm and the half-meter, in the USA the distance is 1 meter and an half. If we go to Northern countries this distance is between 1,5 distance to two meters. The proxemia is something that varies from culture to culture. With kids proxemia must be equal to their height. Distance between child and the adult should be equal to at least the same height. You understand that this is only for comunication purposes and to avoid physical anoying attitude when it´s very difficult make them stop. When we want something we should use verbal language not physical agressive language. It must be a clear rule at home. That distance control is managed with a simple gesture. Even better if take a glance or staring into our kids eyes is enough. It´s a "stay there!" or "Wait!" message. Another crucial thing. You will never stop a conversation with someone else to satisfy your kid demand. Give him a chance to wait some seconds until you finish what you were talking about.Then you will give him all attention he deserves. After a couple of times they will get it. They will begin to get close to the adult, wait a little and then, be heard! Sometimes if they are very close to the adult they will easily pass from finger up to physical contact to demand attention. Red Card for him/her! Remember the time the child has to wait for her turn or interrupt an adult conversation has to be controlled by the adult. If the impatient child waits too long, she will approach and use physical language. Adult should take that into account and manage this wait time. You are also respecting your kid. ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/gesture-meaning-finger-up/ to learn more! Enjoy!

kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "How to communicate with children - Chapter 3" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0) You need to go out with your kids and you are already stressed out! How will they behave? That's why kids need rules, limits and boundaries definition. You are going for an outdoor activity with them or some friends will come to your home and play in backyard. How will you control them? Fun facts for Kids is that at some point, they feel more secure and confident when they have rules, limits and bounderies. It's also part of their job to contest them! They are growing... Kids need rules, limits and bounderies definition they should follow in any circumstances. It will help you to deal with oppositional defiant disorder, temper tantrum, improve communication skills and behavior modification. It may take a little while for them to accept it. We know those rules should be set from the very beggining. Since they are little. They are aware of what are the rules as growing up. The more older they become the more they will contest and have oppositional attitude. But who is the adult here? Who is in charge? Simple attitudes will help you. Let's deep a little more on rules, limits and bounderies definition. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If we’re going with our children eat some ice cream to a terrace café, we do a quick analysis taking into account these parameters: . We define the rules that have to do with the rules of the place itself The rule is for example, waiting for someone to come to the table for our order. Terms that drive us to the counter to make our request. Whether the expense is with prepayment or not. In turn we sit at the table, we consume, we let ourselves be, in this case eat the ice cream and then we leave. In the background are the rules of use of that space. . We know we have limits We are refering to limits of intensity. Define if we do with strength or softness, if we make strong or weak, sound or whisper … The limits have to do with the definition for any one of these parameters. Where we are going to position them. First of all we have limits on the maximum loudness of our voice and what is the minimum we need to talk above the whisper. To be able to be understood by those around us. We also have limits regarding our movement because we know we’re not running or jumping inside a terrace café, we will not put our feet up on the seats and we will not be naked outdoors... They are just limits to the intensity of our activities. . The location where they will eat the icecream has bounderies Bounderies is where the terrace café is placed. The boundary is the physical space where children know they don’t go beyond this perimeter. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Here you have another example: If you take the kids to play ball and ride a bike, you will need to define borders. You may draw a line on the floor, or put something that can serve as a reference point. We know that from this mark for forward we play ball and from mark back we ride a bike. Another thing is stablishing limits so kids can play freely but they have to limit vocal power to certain level. There are neighbors around. Another limit for example is not to throw the ball hard toward the face of another child. You can stablish bounderies and say that when they bike, each one can take two turns. Then define a point for those who want to be the next to go. They can not pass into space where we are playing ball. They are all are free to swap activities. Either can be cycling or play ball, they just have to get back to the refered line and respect the time of each one. Everyone should agree with the rules, limits and boundaries definition and follow them when you are outdoors, playing with friends or having an activity. Now you have rules, limits and boundaries. There are no misconceptions to anyone! :) Watch next video now: "Body language kids crossed arms 3.2 ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slm1K6dXlMk Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/kids-need-rules-limits-and-boundaries-definition/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Thoughts about time for kids 2 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-OYNipbwzw this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Growth mindset change to deal with your kids and with your own life Chapter 2 ” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMb0a2H6dco) I need to share some thoughts about time for kids. We dedicate all the time for kids. The little time we have. But, we need to take care of ourselves too. Our kids will thank us. Each of us exists as an individual, we are beings who want to feel, enjoy and just be…We have our own life and our own will. We want to have babies because they are an addition in our lives. Because we complement each other and because of them we want to be better people. We want to live with them and not For them! And you know, they thank us for our good mental sanity, they thank us for not being dependent of them, they thank us for we have other interests beyond them. They also thank us for being part of us, they thank us by sharing our lives together, they thank us for having things to tell! They thank us for seeing us happy! There is a time... that is our time!... and they thank us for that! You really need to change your “mindset” to deal with your children and with your own life! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Some typical phrases I have been listening over time: - "I only went on vacation when my youngest was 8 years old..." - "From the moment we have children, our life ends ..." - "We're not going anywhere without taking our children" - "After all I've done for my son, this is how he thanks me" - "Tuesday and Thursday ballet, Monday English lessons, Wednesday piano, Saturday morning swimming lessons, Saturday afternoon church school...and I think I may be forgetting something… " - "They just want to stay with the playstation. What can I do.. " - "I gave her a beautiful cell phone!" (In elementary school) - "If you don't obey me, you will regret it.." - "I´ll take them to play in the Park and it´s done!" - "This is what we get from life ..." ... Children just want attention from their parents. We know how kids are, they want to have their own needs be accomplished and satisfied no matter what. They easily run to dad or mum they know will easily buy that tasty ice cream. Or that arrives with a gift or take them to that place they love to play. Or let them watch TV whenever and as much as they want! They also want us to be a cool mum or dad that always find things to do with kids, fun activities for kids, that think about indoor games for kids when the weather sucks, that find a new online games for kids when they are feeling bored...and I know you do parental control! Everytime it's childtime. Daily reflections and daily readings make me think about my own time! Where is my own time? Where is it? Too much information and communication technology that feed our kids on a daily basis. We all live at the same home but efficient verbal and nonverbal communication doesn't happen! But if you stay alert to signs, you realize that although they are happy, over time, the satisfaction doesn't last long and you better start pulling your imagination. The demands will be growing and increasingly more and more. One day you will see yourself fighting hard to keep your no!. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Oddly enough it's all a matter of managing the time that you have and realize what you really want for your own life and for your children lives. Much better to be an "an hour parent", carrying out an activity with his kid, truly participate in it and solving issues together that being a "3 hour parent" that let his child stay on the computer too much time and then take the kid to play outside a little while he stays at the coffee shop reading the newspaper! No communication! But complain by itself, as you may predict, will not add absolutely nothing nor resolve the situation. Next chapters, I will give you some clues that I consider essential to improve your kids behaviour and tips for out of control issues. Once implemented, the results are immediate, you will see for yourself. But you should be aware that It will also implies small behavior and reactions changes you should take. It will also give you space and time to take a deep breath! A deep breath… Watch next video now: “How to Communicate with Children - Chapter 3” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/spending-time-with-your-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Body language kids crossed arms 3.2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slm1K6dXlMk this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3.1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o) In some child development stages kids use body language to communicate. You see your kids crossed arms, but before you ask - is my kid bad or is my child unhappy - watch your own body language. You shoul uncross your arms! Traditional psychology tells us that crossing arms is a defensive attitude. The concept of defensive attitude is almost automatic in adults as in children. Let´s change that! Children are extremely repetitive of what are the attitudes of adults. We have to bear in mind that a child, who crosses his arms, probably does it because he sees his father or mother to do the same. Adults have the habit of being always with their arms crossed. They adopt this posture in situations either where they want to transmit a strong attitude of authority as in situations of a simple conversation with friends. The first thing that child will do in similar situations, is to cross his arms too. Some body language expressions, including crossing arms are communication barriers. We aren't aware of the negative impact until we stop doing it! We want to know how to foster a kid, how to connect with a kid, how does a child personality develop, how does a child's background affect their development and we tend to forget that they learn by emulate adults behavior. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) If your child is always crossing her arms the first thing to do before you tell her to stop, is to look at yourself and try to figure out if you have also the same habit. If so, you should make an effort to correct it. Uncross arms brings the following problem: where to put them! Behind your back? The answer is no! Let them fall, let them visible, and the ideal situation is if you are able to look at the back of your hands, like fallen leaves. It's a seemingly innocuous gesture but fraught with a strong meaning. Adopt a posture of uncrossed arms and fallen hands, means that there is no intention of aggression from that person. If you do not have the courage to leave fallen hands that way, then hang them behind your back but always without crossing them as people usually do. Also do not put them in your pocket! Your hands are to be free! If you already did it, then you have now the condition to change it on your child. You may ask how are we going to uncross our children's arms when they don't want to do it? The answer is, with one finger only! Never grasp your children hand or arm in order to obligate her to uncross her arms! Even with the more carefully you get, is always an aggressive attitude. With your finger, on a vertical position and from up to down, as if you untangled his arms, you can do it! You will feel that they will gradually open slowly their arms, until they are completely stretched. What we are saying to our children is to simply get comfortable, relax and let themselves be. It's a way to make them feel good, dropping their arms as if they were leaves. From the moment they do it, all their posture changes, and changes because they know they are no longer on defense or offense mode! Now, it's time to talk! This talking forks with the following rule, the eyes on the same level. Watch next video now: “Eye contact communication with kids 3.3” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1k9NaBJYnM Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/body-language-kids-crossed-arms/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Kids body language | 10 tips | Change how people see you

https://www.youtube.com/edit?video_id=rgPZ9YWUeTo this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”Best rules for kids | examples” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJy5cD3SnCU We all use body language to communicate. Kids do it too! The impact of your body language change how people see you We want our kids to growth confident and respectable It's a work in progress exercise Follow me please! 1. "Let your arms aside. Free arms, like leaves when you do it you will have: . hands away from pocket . arms uncrossed . hand away from holding the other arm . hands far from wheist . hands away from behind your back You look natural and confident with your free arms right? By the way, open palms (of your hands) symbolize openess and honesty.Nice!! 2. Head facing forward You look stronger! . with your head down – you look submissive . with your head up – you look arrogant Facing foward you look stronger! 3. Keep your back straight You look taller! 4.keep your shoulders back you'll breath better! 5.Open your chest! You look bigger! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 6. Keep eye contact when speaking or listening to someone You will look much more confident. Strong people love that! 7. Use your real smile anytime you can. It makes wonders in most situations Not smiling with teeth all the time – plactic smile, seems forced and nervous. Your best smile will naturally come in special moments. Try it, you'll see! 8. Avoid repetitive small gestures with your fingers, with your feet Repetitive gestures make you look nervous. Fast moves like playing hands, scratch your nose, tap fingers, papping the feet, touching your face will not help you a lot. Just breath and relax! 9. Both feet on the floor keep your feet flat on the floor with toes pointing outwards you will realize that it will help you think better 10. Be confortable in your space. In 1 metre around you you're the king or Queen. Remember that! Watch next video now: “5 Eye contact tips | how to communicate with your eyes | 3.3” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeEn5nlIug4 Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/kids-body-language-change-how-people-see-you/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Magic words of good manners with your kid | 3.7

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=470UhLQlpVk this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Gesture meaning Finger up | 3.6" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pV1XTilxNFg) Words like please, thank you, don't you mind, can I..?.? Aren't there by accident and kids get it right away! Parents should understand that these words are expressions of request or recognition, and are the basic principle of effective and healthy communication. This is called “phatic function”. When we dwell on what is the criteria of communication and the way to communicate we have to understand that the first step in communication is the wake-up call, then the wrapping, which refers to the communication itself and finally the end of the communication. Is a constant and permanent sequence process. Like the Gauss Curve, the beginning of it matches the beginning of communication. You reach the top of the curve, which represents the communication itself and then goes to descent phase that represents the end of the communication. Communication is the high point of the relationship between people and to get there you must initiate communication with a “magic word”, to do the hook that involves the receiver. When a child uses magic words, automatically creates a state of willingness from adults in order to pay her attention. In turn when she gets to the end of communication and says "thank you", adult enters into downward phase of the Gauss curve, which leads to the end of the communication. Next time the adult will surely pay great attention to this child. Parents should follow this sequence of communication, starting to do it with their children at home, not only for being polite, but because they realize the impact they have on communication and treatment with others in other situations. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) This is how to improve communication skills that starts at home into family environment. Raising children, no matter child development stages, we should always use the magic words. They growth mindset with basic values since always. This is how to foster a kid, how to grow a kid and how to be more confident on daily relationships. Magic words of good manners with your kid means they will clearly start doing the same with you and with others and receive a positive reaction. It give them great social skills to deal with others and being successful on relationships. On the other hand expressions like: -I want...! -Give me...! -Put this...! - Get out...! - No! ...should not be accepted! Of course this explanation in theory have no impact on the child, we have to move on to practice. I´ll give you a tip: If the child insists on this kind of language, the more likely is mum or dad began to have “hearing problems”... like this: (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) - Kid: I want a glass of water! - Mum: It seems to me that there's something missing ... what will be? - Kid: I want a glass of water, I already told you!!! - Mum: I couldn't hear well ...what did you say? - Kid: I want to... - Mum: What? I still can't hear well ... come on, another attempt! Suddenly we hear... - Kid: Please I want a glass of water... (Time now to transform the "I want..." into "can you give me...") - Mum: Now the whole sentence please ... you are almost there! - Kid: Please, can you give me a glass of water? - Mum: Much better now! Here's your glass of water! Turn the dialogue into a game, giving them several attempts to get there! After 3 times I assure you that your child will remember to use the magic word, otherwise she will not get what she wants! Never forget the correction of the word "I want..." to "can I have?". Bounderies definition should be taken for behavior modification. This is not authoritative parenting. There are several parenting styles and you should adapt this tip to your own reality. For the more stubborn ones that realize the missing “magic word” and yet don't want to say it, there is no problem at all! As the adult did not notice the correct expression, that child will not have what she wants, and the request is not satisfied. Issue solved! ;) Watch next video now: “Bedtime conversation ritual with your kids 3.8” Click here: http://www.mariasereno.org/bedtime-conversation-ritual-with-your-kids/ Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/magic-words-of-good-manners-with-your-kid/ to learn more! Enjoy!

Best rules for kids | Examples | 3.1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJy5cD3SnCU this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first:”How to communicate with children | 10 Tips” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvmnSRgL90 Best rules for kids examples: Tell your kids as many of these following statements as you can 1. "we Share" We share everything except bad moods 2. "we love kiss and hug" no hitting, pulling, biting, yelling or throwing 3. "Instead of arguing tell us what you think" we want to listen to your ideas 4. "we are gentle" ask nicely, say please and thank you apologize when you hurt someone treat each other with respect have gentle hands and friendly touches use a quietly voice tone when talking to someone 5. Be ready to help and you can ask for help too (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) 6. Don't be afraid to tell the truth 7. you look in the eyes to talk with someone and when someone is talking with you 8. clean desk, tidy place after homework, meals and playing 9. turn off lights and appliances when you leave the room 10. Do your personal best all the time "I'll get it there...soon" Watch next video now: “Kids body language tips | Change how people see you” Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgPZ9YWUeTo Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/best-rules-for-kids-examples/ to learn more! ;) Subscribe to my channel and share this video with your friends or anyone else who may benefit from this information. Thank you so much for watching and remember if you want to have a great life with your kids take action and take action now!!

How to communicate with children Chapter 3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulyQz4SD_m0 this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Thoughts about time for kids 2.1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-OYNipbwzw) Let's talk about how to communicate with children. But first let's pick up some clues from nature! Animals interact and communicate very well with each other. Despite not having an elaborate language they could use to make their life easier as happens in humans. However the message that "animal parents" want to transmit is immediately understood by their young without need for the assault… If you look at the animal world is curious to understand how things work in nature and in circumstances that involves it. What is essential in the relationship between parents and children in the animal world is transmitted so perfectly, clear and indisputable. All behaviors, reactions or ways to solve situations with children, should be above all, ways of interact with them. Resulting in a immediate understanding by children of what we educators want. At the same time, they must understand that there is a hierarchy between parents and children. That is the result of parents more experience in the real world. Little touches with the muzzle for example leave a clear message! In practice, if they don’t understand the call of attention, most likely they will be prevented from feeding. Next time, the message is certainly seized. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) The young animals have come to understand the reality of the authority. The hierarchy and the reality that everything is allowed as long as they abide by the basic rules. Otherwise they could starve. Pure and harsh reality of nature! So, why do we speak so much?… When it comes to dealing with kids, we realized that observing animal behaviors can give us valuable clues that can be perfectly applied to our children. Believe me! After too much National Geographic, and many observations during years within my nuclear family, with friends and acquaintances I start to get some tricks about communication strategies. Understand communication interaction itself is the starting point. I managed to gather a set of extremely useful clues. It helped me to systematize what can be ways to act in various situations with children. It all boils down to one word. Communication Strategies! We think our orders are very clear. We repeat thousands of times the same thing, so why the information does not pass? Why they don’t seem to understand what we say and doesn´t do what we want them to do? To provoke us? Counteract? To annoy us? After a day of work? Just because? It’s their fault? Is there any one to blame? (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) The information passing or not to our kids, with the results that we want, are related to the way we communicate with them. Sometimes as parents we get too focus on providing the best conditions so that they can be competitive in the real world. True and important but it's not all! We need to know how to improve communication skills, verbal and nonverbal communication and be effective. It's not so that difficult believe me. You just need to find out what works for you and how to be more confident. Thecnology it's our world now. It's completely our kids environment. They dominate technology language and are always serching for free games online to play, playing video games with friends, living inside social media. But technology doesn't end on video games or social media. There's so much great educational projects you can develop with your kids and use it as a strategy for a healthy communication with them. We should start with our own behavior, attitudes, and coherence with the examples we give. We may not be acting in the best way. No problem!..We have a starting point!! Start with the next steps: 1. Stop complaining and whining! 2. Take a break! 3. Take a deep breath! 4. Be openminded 5. Everything that happened from this moment back doesn’t matter anymore! 6. Smile! 7. Get to work! Take a look at my first 8 communication strategies on the next videos and start now right here: "kids need rules limits and boundaries definition 3.1" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDSyU3n_X5o Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/how-to-communicate-with-children/ to learn more! Enjoy!