Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Eye contact communication with kids 3.3" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G1k9NaBJYnM) One of the big questions parents make: "why does my child yell at me?" Voice tone communication with kids is essential. I must be honest with you. Children yelling to an adult or anyone else is the worse situation on relationship communication. At this point you make all those questions: - Is my child psychotic? - Is my kid crazy? - Why is my kid possessed? - Is my kid depressed? - Does my child hate me? - Is my kid deaf? Most of the cases the answer is no! On kids mind this is the easiest way to be heard! You should think why. It's not their fault. They have missed some basic rules when they were growing! You should act now! After the bad behavior your child will be naturally in a defensive mode. Waiting for a great sermon from her parents, as always! Your child is already waiting to see her father or mother with a face bright red, very angry, yelling and with those strange eyes... Mommies and daddies! When we lost our patience and we feel very angry anything we could do or make simply doesn´t work. Voice tone communication with kids is a challenge on stress situations. Honestly it has zero impact on your kid change behaviour. The truth is after 5 seconds they simply stop listen to us. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) You lost your turn to solve things in one time! You missed the attention window, which in kids is no longer than 5 seconds. On that moment they only stay concentrated and focused on our strange transfigured face and voice, thinking that maybe we will explode...! On that moment you are unable to have a constructive attitude. The best thing to do is to send your kid to Naughty Place (which I will address later). Go for a walk or go to another room and calm down. It's no use, no matter how much it costs to us, we have to make an effort to maintain our voice tone smooth and firm. The first thing to do is take a deep breath, turn around and take a time out. Then calmly you will think about what to do. Try never react by impulse. It never ends well. Divert your attention to something else and after 10 min you will feel a lot better. Recover and use your natural voice tone and go talk with your kid. When talking with your child in an appropriate tone of voice, the explanation that follows should be a short explanation and focused on the concerned subject. You will explain in a few words that yelling is a wrong behaviour and you know that next time he will give his best to not repeat it. If it happens again unfortunely something he had asked for, or wanted to do will just not happen. Even though you are tense your voice tone is firm but soft. End up with an "I love you". And you are not being ironic! We should never use irony with children. Again, voice tone communication with kids is essential. (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Your explanation took no more than 3 minutes, then your off! Of course your child will be yelling again on next opportunity. Now the second part of the act: Come close to your child and in a few word tell him that thing that will not happen...remember? I'll give you an example: Your child has a birthday party on that day. Your child knows, because you told him previousely, if he yell at you again he will not go to the party. Of course he is not expecting that you actually do it! You will come close to him and calmly you will say: Just to tell you that I already call your friend's mum to worn that you will not go to the party Again, your off! If you fail to comply with your word you will japardize the all thing! Do not be emotional. You should remain consistent and calm. We have smart kids. After some time I guarantee your kid will stop yelling at you! Congratulations! You change mindset to positive, you learn how to improve communication skills on this particular situation. You used healthy communication strategies. Most of all you should take care of yourself too and save energy for what is really important - Think about fun activities for kids and enjoy all together. Although voice tone communication with Kids is a challange you should do all effords to use it to engage with your child. Watch next video now: “Improve Communication Skills - Short Commands to Kids 3.5" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlF6EbzQ_cs Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/voice-tone-communication-with-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!