Improve Communication Skills | Short Commands to Kids 3.5

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlF6EbzQ_cs this video link Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! (To fully understand this chapter you may read first here: "Voice Tone Communication with Kids 3.4" Click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBkPZdpQ17Y) Improve communication skills short commands to kids - leads to that big question: Why do we talk too much with our kids? Usually the answer is: "Because I need to! I can't stand my kid doing this and that..." The right answer is because we just talk too much! As simple as that! We tend to talk too much and give tones of explanations. Kids don't need that! The message must be simple and clear. Forget too much talk and go strait to the point with short orders and concise explanations. So how to improve communication skills short commands to kids? One of positive quotes about life completely true: "Don't talk too much. Action speak louder than words you say" Let's first understand better why do we talk too much and why it just doesn't work. Once again, nature is the great lesson. Animals use basic communication formats to impose, to get organized, to communicate, with clear and firm touches without hurting. They go straight to the point. No fluff! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) One thing is certain, children’s window attention is too small. After 3, 4 seconds they start immediately to divert attention to another subject. Unless it is something or a subject that falls immediately in their interest and called their attention. We shoul always give short orders, means that it must be really short. We are talking about a Word and not a set of words or a phrase. The order is usually a verb and the verb is imperative. The imperative requires clarity and that means in practice that a short order involves holding the situation concerned and reduce to a verb that resolves the situation. For instance, a child is with her feet on the table. Parents usually reactions are: "Get immediately your feet off the table! I already told you a thousand times not to do that! Look what you did to the table! Now it is all dirty! You will clean it all yourself! Jumps on the ground now!!! "...blá, blá, blá.... (Sorry!) Your child is already miles away, a lot of information was given and I assure you not even half of the first sentence she heard! We need to focus on the verb and the main objective of the information we want to convey: Verb: Jump Action: Floor (objective of the jump) And it's not "jump to the floor!" If you say just "jump", you will get immediately the question "jump to where?". If you only say "floor" the meaning of "jump" is already included! Therefore, parents have to think on the verb, without using it, and then you have to think on the purpose of the action! When your child is with her feet on the table, you only have to say "floor!". She realizes at once! (Subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe and keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids!) Other examples: You want your child to open the door: - Dad: Don´t you mind open the door please! - Kid: Hãã?...What? ... " - Dad: Door! - Kid: Hãã?... - Dad: Door! The kid stares at the door... - Dad: Door! (3rd time) Kid goes with his hand straight to the door and opens it! We're in the car, the window is open, your kids hand is out of the window and other cars are passing: - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hãã..? - Mum: Hand! - Kid: Hand??.. Suddenly the kid looks and sees he has his hand out (if he hasn't already known...), and realizes the message immediately! He put his hand inside! Don't mix it up with authoritative parenting, you are just going strait to the point. In general you just need one order and two reminders for more challengers kids. From there it's an indiscipline issue. Your kid follow your order now but in some situations you feel it's necessary an explanation. Explanations must always be based on the principle of: "do you understand what happened?" and not "do you understand what you did?". The last option has clearly a tone of accusation, causing the child a natural defense reaction that will contribute in nothing to solve the situation. On the first option, you are asking if the child realized what happened. you're giving latitude so that your child can talk to you with comfortable and confidence environment. This stance clearly decreases conflict and tension on the moment. Here you are contributing for behavior modification and change your mindset to positive opening a communication channel with your kids. We just have to go straight to the point! ;) Don´t forget to subscribe here http://www.mariasereno.org/Subscribe to keep getting more tips for a great life with your kids! ;) Click here http://www.mariasereno.org/improve-communication-skills-short-commands-to-kids/ to learn more! Enjoy!